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muaah
Jul 21, 2011, 01:57 PM
I and my boyfriend are in a relationship from the past 3 years in starting we use to talk a lot on phone during night but from the last 4-5 months there is a lot of change in him he always gave time and attention to me he is really possessive but now I even caught him lying he went to movie with his friends and didn't tell me he very often goes out with his friends in the evening for having snacks and all. He thinks that if he'll tell me I would fight he says that he wants to enjoy his life as 12th is finished and he talks really less with me and avoids talking in night he says he wants to sleep and he can not talk as he will have ear pain I don't understand what has happened to him although he loves me but doesn't give me proper time even when he is free he thinks I am too quarrelsome and always fights with him I am really confused what is he up to if we don't talk fr days he really doesn't care as he has taken me fr granted I try to talk about it with him but he is never interested in talking about it what should I do? I love him a lot an don't want to lose him please help me how can I get to know what's the matter he has lost interest in me or what?

JohnDaman407
Jul 21, 2011, 10:46 PM
Maybe he he's losing interest in what you guys had... Try doing some activities that does not involve him. Go out with your own friends/have phone conversations with friends to let him know that others are willing to listen.

amicon
Jul 21, 2011, 10:46 PM
His feelings are changing and it seems he's no longer keen on this relationship.

Sad as it is, these things happen in life.

I suggest you ask him if he wants to break up-yes,it's hurtful-but so is waiting around in limbo.

muaah
Jul 21, 2011, 10:51 PM
I already asked him if he wants break up but he said no... he doesn't want it he loves me but he says that I am really impossible as I cross question him a lot...

theworstever
Jul 22, 2011, 01:52 AM
As someone who has done this to his girlfriend, I can say that you need to give him time. Don't give him all of your attention. Go out and do things that don't involve him. Become more mysterious. Just don't try to make him jealous by talking to other girls or hooking up. That would make it worse.

I have a feeling he might be talking to other girls but he's afraid to cheat on you. Ask him if there's someone else, tell him that you guys need to talk and you want to work it out.

mj808
Jul 22, 2011, 07:22 AM
The best thing to do is to go on living your life. Don't call as much as you usually would. Give him some space for a while. If that doesn't work in a reasonable amount of time ask if he wants to end the relationship. Stay strong, because out there is somebody who is willing to give you the attention you deserve.

talaniman
Jul 22, 2011, 12:16 PM
I already asked him if he wants break up but he said no... he doesn't want it he loves me but he says that I am really impossible as I cross question him a lot...

Could you be insecure, and needy of his time, and maybe too pushy and no fun?

You have to adjust or things will get worse. Get your own life that makes you happy. Why so many questions? How old are you?

muaah
Jul 22, 2011, 12:57 PM
I don't know bt I want him to tell me every thing and I am 18+.. I ask so many questions bcoz I am afraid to lose him as he loves me a lot...

talaniman
Jul 22, 2011, 02:10 PM
You are needy and insecure, now you know. The more you push for what you want, the more he will back away, until he gets tired of it. Back up.He is overwhelmed by all your questions, all the time.

hidden123
Jul 26, 2011, 02:10 PM
Back away and give him some space before you push him away for good. Stop calling him and get on with your life. Go out with your friends. Get some mystery about you. People are attracted to strong People. Both men and women. Right now, like Tala said, you're insecure and needy. That's not attractive..