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ChloeFoo
Jul 19, 2011, 12:12 AM
I've been with this boyfriend roughly 1 month,and he told me he's having some financial problem lately and so we canceled a lot of dates,I even paid on mostly dates,and he even borrow money from me.and recently he's really broke and he's stressed with no money nor job,and he's started to argue over small matter,he doesn't even want to to meet me,because of the petrol,I always said sorry when we argue and I'm trying to stop those argument but he's just don't want to stop it,keep finding reason to argue.we used to talk every night and meet everyday,and now it's been 4 days we didn't even talk and 1 week we didn't even meet.I did ask for meeting him or talking to him,but he's just keep on telling me that he's broke and I'm not a understanding girlfriend.our relationship its just complicated,I dun even know is him serious on me,because he probably wun find me until I find him,and he keep telling me he love me,but I just can't felt it anymore.I need him a lot,what can I do to get him back? :(

redhed35
Jul 19, 2011, 12:18 AM
1 month and your having these problems, its not even that, its 2 and a half weeks, ( you did'nt see him for 11 days).

You know, times are hard, no doubt about it, but there are things you can do together that don't cost money, however, because the relationship is so young, hardly off the ground and your experiencing this amount of stress and upset, perhaps this is not the relationship for you, let him sort out his own problems, do you really need this hassel?

Should it not be fun at this stage?

My advice is walk away, you have already given too much to this guy.

Curlyben
Jul 19, 2011, 12:18 AM
If this is how he acts after ONE MONTH, then you are better off without him..

ChloeFoo
Jul 19, 2011, 12:24 AM
Everyone is telling me to walk away,but Its really hard,I'm trying to convince myself to let go,but I just non stop thinking about him :(

ChloeFoo
Jul 19, 2011, 08:17 AM
Finally, I told him that I'm done trying and as if he want me to in his life let me know and bye.
I just saying this to make him asked me to stay,but he just didn't even give a damn on it.
I just felt sad that he behaving this way,Im just wondering am I doing the right choice of leaving him as in he's stressed now and I suppose to stay strong and support him,but he's just acting like he doesn't care.
I love him so much but Its just getting harder day by day.

amicon
Jul 19, 2011, 08:27 AM
What is he stressed about?

If he isn't even trying I suggest you stand by what you said and move on.

ChloeFoo
Jul 19, 2011, 08:43 AM
He's stressed because he have no money and job now,and he just got a job ytd and start working and he just stop contacting me now and keep saying he's busy now...

amicon
Jul 19, 2011, 10:18 AM
Then leave him to being''busy'' and stand by what you said- you're done trying.

talaniman
Jul 19, 2011, 08:31 PM
If you can't even enjoy the first month, then you should get out, regroup and disappear.

amicon
Jul 19, 2011, 11:34 PM
You stop thinking about him by keeping busy doing other things with your life.

Seriously, forget him-what a loser!