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123453k
Jul 18, 2011, 04:05 PM
Ive been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months (im 24 and she is 20), I love my girlfriend and I know she loves me, I am everything she ever wanted she said and that I mean everything to her and I am so good to her and she loves me.

(I have never done one thing wrong to her, I have always been loving and caring and 100% truthful and honest and treated her like a princess and would do anything for her, however there have been a few incidents in the past where she's been nasty and distant to me due to mood changes to do with the hormones in birth control pill she was on, and she generally has a little history of treating people nasty sometimes because she had been treated badly in the past, and we talked a couple of times and she told me that she doesn't want to keep hurting me anymore and that I deserve better than her, she said she can't help what she does, and I know that she can't and that's why it doesn't bother me, I have forgiven all because I love her and it has all been forgotten about, it is no longer an issue, we both agreed that she would go off the birth control pill to help change her moods and ways and it has, she hasn't been nasty since, she's been great),

however, recently we spoke and she told me that she loves me so much, her heart is in the relationship but her head isn't, and she needs time alone to be single to sort her head out and see what she wants. She hasn't been single since she was 14 and just recently came out of a 4 year relationship 3 or 4 months before we started going out and she did say that she didn't really get over her ex but she has no intention of being with him, she doesn't want to be with him at the minute, she doesn't know if she wants to be with anybody at the minute.

so we have agreed that she is single for a while now so she can sort her head out. She told me she loves me and its only temporary and she is 98.1 percent sure that she will be back, she just needs time to sort her head out. She said to me... be happy things aren't really changing that much, just the status in my head, ill still be up to see you and all. However I haven't seen her in almost a week now even though she told me she would still be up to see me. We text each other now and again in general conversation and she sends x's and I've asked a couple times does she still love me and she says of course she does. Anytime I ask her does she want to come and see me she just says I don't know, maybe. And then I said I understand you need time to sort your head out its just hard for me being apart. And she told me that yes she just needs time on her own for a while. But we still text general conversation... not arguing or anything. Last night she text me night night x x and I said the same back, then when she got up at 5:30am she text me and let me know where she was going that night. Its not 12midnight nearly 24 hours after she last text and I haven't replied to her, because I heard that ignoring her was the best thing to do and it would make her worry and sweat and miss me and want to talk to me, but I'm worried because she hasn't text again either since her last message, I don't know what to do.

what do you think will happen, will she be back?
should I text her back? If yes when should I text back?
if no how long should I have to keep this up?
please any advice and help on my situation and what to do and anybodys views or opinions would be greatly appreciated.

mj808
Jul 18, 2011, 05:35 PM
Hey, I feel for you man. Girls can be a little unpredictable ( I am one, so I know). Her not texting back means one of two things. A) She doesn't care. B) She's going to try to make you sweat as well.

Treat this like a break up. Go "NC" and get your head straight. Go be happy. She's never been single aka- She needs attention. And if you stop giving it to her she'll either move on (and if she does that she wasn't worth it anyway) or she will come back stronger than ever.

Honestly she doesn't sound like that nice of a person but I don't have the right to judge. I don't know her life. However people do have a choice when it comes to how they act. They are in control of that and anyone who can't own up to that should have their maturity questioned. Just saying.

Best of luck to you! And never give up on love. If she's not the one, than you are just one step closer to finding "her".

talaniman
Jul 18, 2011, 09:26 PM
Sorry guy but she dumped you nicely, and is putting more and more distance between you.

Treat this like the end, and start doing what you were doing before you met her. You have already taken a lot of crap, and that was enough. Move on, its rough but for your own good, and don't look back, even for a few crumbs, that mean nothing.

Sorry, I know it sucks.

amicon
Jul 18, 2011, 10:14 PM
I'm sorry, this is a break up-and you should disappear from her life.

Heal by moving forward with your own life, doing your own thing.

It hurts now,but you will get over her.