merc22
Jul 17, 2011, 05:57 AM
I had a relationship with a boy, everything was fine , the relationship was perfect he spoke over a future together about going to live together. I met him in March and during the time we spent together I saw that he was often nervous and he couldn't sleep well. Once we were together sleeping and he had a nightmare about his father and he woke up almost screaming.
He told me that his mother died when he was 12 and after that his stepfather often beat him.
I thought that his problems could have a psychological source and I advised him to go to visit a psychologist. At the end he went there and during the therapy, it came out that he was sexually abused by his stepfather when he was little.
The news destroyed him. He decided to end the relationship and he went to a psychiatric institute.
I still love him and try to support him in this drama, but when I told him I love him and I will wait till he feels better, he became really angry and he didn't want to communicate with me. Now we are communicating almost every second day through email, but he doesn't want to hear about a relationship. He told he may never again have a relationship with somebody. I try to support him through the therapy, I asks him how was his day etc.
I really don't know how to behave I this situation, I am still in love and want to support him in this drama, but the whole situation is slowly really destroying me too. I am always nervous and I think the whole day about him...
I can believe that that's the end of our relationship, and I feel also that I am the cause of his pain because I advised him to go to see a psychologist..
Thank you in advance for the answer.
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He told me that his mother died when he was 12 and after that his stepfather often beat him.
I thought that his problems could have a psychological source and I advised him to go to visit a psychologist. At the end he went there and during the therapy, it came out that he was sexually abused by his stepfather when he was little.
The news destroyed him. He decided to end the relationship and he went to a psychiatric institute.
I still love him and try to support him in this drama, but when I told him I love him and I will wait till he feels better, he became really angry and he didn't want to communicate with me. Now we are communicating almost every second day through email, but he doesn't want to hear about a relationship. He told he may never again have a relationship with somebody. I try to support him through the therapy, I asks him how was his day etc.
I really don't know how to behave I this situation, I am still in love and want to support him in this drama, but the whole situation is slowly really destroying me too. I am always nervous and I think the whole day about him...
I can believe that that's the end of our relationship, and I feel also that I am the cause of his pain because I advised him to go to see a psychologist..
Thank you in advance for the answer.
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