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himanshusinghal
Jul 17, 2011, 05:01 AM
Hi,

I am going to be 30 in three months from now. After working for 11 years, I enrolled myself for a part time course in a premier MBA institute after dreaming about someday doing an MBA from there for 10 years! 1 year into the course and I have been shown the door because my CGPA is less than what the institute desires from 1st year students. After spending 1 full year, a lakh rupees and so much of my time every evening doing this course, I have now been told I can't proceed to 2nd year since I haven't done well academically in the 1st year. I am friendless, obese with weight of 110 kgs, with a nagging wife and in-laws who can't understand my perspective at all. Moreover, I have very emotional parents who won't be able to understand just why couldn't I cope with my exams. I am continuing with my job, which has been smooth at the same office for the past 6 years. The MBA was my dream, but I blew up my chances to do it because of my casual attitude and I know that from within. What should I do now? If I do it with the fresh batch, I will receive a lot of tanting, while I obviously can't stay with my own batch anymore. It is very depressing and this MBA was my dream. I feel like committing suicide. Please someone help

51 really?
Jul 17, 2011, 10:56 AM
It sounds like you earned your failure. Did I read that wrong? So you made some bad choices and did not reach your goal. Your 30 years old and afraid to try again because of what people might think, really? If your goal and dream really are to get your MBA you will do whatever it takes, period. GROW UP, STEP UP and BE the person you want to be. YOU CAN DO THIS. MOVE NOW your will not chose wrong the second time around, will you?

Wondergirl
Jul 17, 2011, 12:08 PM
Have you ever checked into online courses for an MBA? Then you could take a single course or maybe two at a time, as you feel comfortable.

What about this school? --

Online MBA | Online Graduate School Programs | Keller Graduate School of Management (http://www.keller.edu/whykeller/online-graduate-school-overview.jsp)

Fr_Chuck
Jul 17, 2011, 02:17 PM
So you do another school when you are ready. People who never fail, never try. If you don't try, you can't fail. But by trying you sometimes fail. Some of the most famous Americans failed dozens of times before they made things work.

I have had several businesses fail over the years but you go and start a new one

joypulv
Jul 17, 2011, 02:41 PM
Get a divorce, tell your parents that you are not a child, and pay them back if you borrowed any money from them. Ditch the inlaws and go back to work. Try for an MBA elsewhere later. Maybe the unhappiness all around you was the reason you didn't try very hard. You are not as stuck as you think.

Enigma1999
Jul 17, 2011, 03:00 PM
GREAT advice Fr_Chuck, I had to spread the love.

Joy, I'm a little shocked with your advice. Get a divorce? Ditch the inlaws?

How exactly will that benefit him? We have NO idea what is going on in his home. How do we know his wife is part of the problem.


Himanshu,

It sounds as if you have more problems than just school. Problems with yourself, and others around you are seeing this, which could be wearing their patience thin. Growing tired of seeing your depression, which ends up with YOU putting the balme on them. I could be wrong. It has happened before.

Ialso agree with 51 really? You just need to realized that, hey, you failed, but get up and do it again.

It's like that famous line from the movie "A league of their own", when Tom Hanks says, "It's the hard that makes it good. If it weren't hard, then everyone would be doing it".

I strongly believe that. Try it again.

Good luck.

joypulv
Jul 17, 2011, 06:24 PM
The shock effect was intentional.
He will either be offended or relieved by what each of us says - e.g. if I say 'get a divorce, ditch the relatives' and the horrible nagging wife and family suddenly aren't so bad, I have done my job. If a light bulb goes off, I have done my job.