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Assif Yousuf
Jul 13, 2011, 05:31 AM
I was in a true relation two years ago and then we broke up cause of my mistake . After a year or so I mean after one year of break up we became friends and used to chat and text a lot . Then as the time passed I proposed her back and she said that she loves me more than anything else but can't come back to my life . She also had a rebound relationship after our break up but now since 5 months she has broke up with that guy . She talks to me very well sometimes as if she is my girlfriend but then all of a sudden she stops for few days and decides not to talk.. after that she again breaks the ice.. .
I am in true love with her and can do anything for her also I have done something impossibles just to get her back... Please help me to get her back... I can't live without her... :"""( Please help me
talaniman
Jul 13, 2011, 08:54 AM
Sorry guy, but no special power will change her mind, and as much as you love her, it does you no good to keep chasing her and giving her that kind of attention. That is the behavior of a loyal pet, not a man. A man would be building a life for himself without her, especially since she dumped you and stuck you in the friend zone.
Disappear, and see if she even misses you at all. What have you got to lose since your way has not worked.
bullfight
Jul 14, 2011, 07:00 PM
If you can't live without her, you can't live with yourself.
Learn to live with yourself, and you can learn to live without her.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, really. Find another girl out of the million others out there, and simply move on. Or keep dwelling on your past while real life is happening around and the Earth and the stars happily without dwelling on their last spin, and you are bound to run into some kind of emotional glitch again, sooner or later.
You shouldn't complain about her "games". You are a willing participant. If you choose to react to her silly behavior with one of your own, you should not complain. You are both playing silly games if you are reacting to her moods. Otherwise she is the equivalent to talking to herself.
Move on. Move on. Move on. Which part of Move On don't you understand - as the country song used to say...
Good luck to you.
Assif Yousuf
Jul 14, 2011, 08:21 PM
But dear... I tried to move on... can't even take the single step... she is going to be my ultimate destiny and want her and only her to be my girl...
Homegirl 50
Jul 14, 2011, 08:27 PM
You can move on if you want to.
Get the notion of her out of your head.
You cannot make someone want you that does not want you.
Let go of this dream so you can move on... Or hang on to it and be miserable.
Assif Yousuf
Jul 15, 2011, 12:39 AM
She wants me... the time when I am off I mean away from her... she gets desperate to talk to me...
Give me such a remedy so that I can get her... she loves me... and misses me the time I am not with her... Give a solution other than moving on
Homegirl 50
Jul 15, 2011, 06:42 AM
If she wanted you the way you want her we would not be having this dialog.
Ask her if she wants to be your girl again, then you will have your answer.
If she says No! It means no.
Assif Yousuf
Jul 15, 2011, 09:58 AM
Well... she says that I love you and I am yours... but sometimes she do say that go away kind of stuff... but sometimes... :(((
talaniman
Jul 15, 2011, 10:51 AM
Tell her to quite playing games as you have no time for it, nor will you tolerate it. Then don't! What self respecting man would??
Assif Yousuf
Jul 15, 2011, 11:41 AM
Disappearing does help... she misses me that time.. and yes it is true that she often plays games and teases me sometimes,, < ! :((
talaniman
Jul 15, 2011, 11:55 AM
Instead of trying so hard to get her back, you should focus on a life that makes you happy without her.
You did get dumped, and her words of love do not say she cannot live without you. You are but a tampon for her when she needs attention, or company, or as relief to boredom.
Like a pet she calls at her convenience. A pet is always available, as are YOU! That's not love, that's dependence, an addiction. A distraction for you to keep from doing what you need to do. To keep you from seeing better options, and opportunities.
Until you break your addiction, she will have all your dignity, and self respect, for her own purpose.
Then as the time passed I proposed her back and she said that she loves me more than anything else but can't come back to my life
In time she will tire of you when she has options, and opportunities of her own, besides YOU!! Sorry guy, but you must get your own dignity, and self respect back. Disappear from her life, be busy with your own, and unavailable for any more of her BS!!
Homegirl 50
Jul 15, 2011, 12:18 PM
Then it is up to you to sit her down and tell her you're tired of the games. She either wants you or she doesn't.
She is treating you as you allow her to.