Hello everyone, sorry this will be a little long,

First of all, my name is Alex and I am 26 years of age, I am currently a police officer and trying to finish school to better myself. I have been in policing for about 6 years. I know everyone in here is going to say to move on and find someone else but is definitely a struggle I've had the worst luck ever in relationships. I am and average guy, not the best lucking, not the worst lucking. My feelings towards someone I really like are strong and I tend to devote myself to the person I date or begin a relationship with. Many women out there might say “wow, this is what I'm looking for”, but for some reason I have not met that one person.

I will begin by saying that I got married at the age of 16 years old with my high school sweetheart, we had two beautiful children at the age of 17 and 18. I began working as a police officer when I was 20 years old and our marriage went to crap due to trust issues, the “cop being a womanizer” perception. At the age of 22 we got a divorce and our communication was bad, we hated each other. Shortly after I met another woman 3 years older than me. At that time I thought this was the best thing that ever happened to me, a really beautiful smart woman liking me “ right on”, “nope I was wrong”. Everything with this new girl was beautiful the first 6 months until her ex husband began texting telling me he was still sleeping with her and then some. After a while I began seeing things I didn't like about this woman, her flirting with other guys, wanting to go out by herself, always arguing with me, we eventually broke up after 2.5 years, lol, I know.

After that I haven't been able to meet anyone until recently, 1 month ago, lol my apartment manager. This one began the wrong way also. Like I said earlier I'm 26 years old and she is 24, cliché huh? Lol. Well I am the officer providing police services for the complex in return I get a free apartment, plus a little extra. It all started by her emailing me, so we continued emailing back and forth. The downside began because she was still married. This woman began telling me her life story and her troubles with her husband, she stated she got married at 16 and had 2 kids and her husband was her first real boyfriend. She would also say that she was tired of him controlling her and not allowing her to do anything and she felt trapped. So a week ago we went out for coffee and after we ended up kissing. The next day she called me and asked me to meet her and I did, we talked for a while, and at the end we once again kissed and hugged each other.. So the following day we agreed to go out dancing, so she invites her sister and we met at the club. The whole night she told me how much she liked me, and was very into me, even said she was falling for me. She kissed me and hugged me a lot, but here comes the sister pulling her away and saying to stop, and would whisper a long conversation in her ear, who knows what was said. The following day she called me early morning and she asked me out but at the last minute cancelled on me and went to the club with her sister. The next day she did the same asked me out and at last minute cancelled and went out with her friends, which I didn't understand. Yesterday, she called and asked me to meet her, she finally came through and we talked for a while. She told me I was what she was looking for and she was really into me but was scared of failure, she's a perfectionist. We kissed, hugged, and cuddled. So I asked her point blank if she was talking to other people, and she said yes some guys she met at the club, but there nobody and she was not into them because she figures they're kids and are not going places, recall she said she was scared of failure and was scared because she's never done something like this dating, but yet she's talking to other people. So towards the end she mentions that she wanted a serious relationship, Before leaving we kissed and I kissed her neck. She asked if I only wanted to have sex with her, and said if so to move along, I told her no. So we kissed some more and kissed her on her neck. I made a joke and told her “oops sorry, I made you a passion mark: she got extremely upset and I told her I was joking, so she pulled away and left saying I was “controlling”, not eeeeevvveeen..

So I went to her office this morning and told her that I wanted a serious relationship and now her answer was that she was confused and didn't want a serious relationship because she thought I was controlling and she wanted to be herself and not have someone to tell her something. SO I asked her why she made me believe otherwise and her answer was sorry, we can be friends and may be later we can start something.
So now I am so frustrated, sad, disappointed, and feel like failure. I think I might have developed some feeling in a short period which is really weird. I just feel sad because all I want is to meet a smart beautiful woman who I can share my passionate love with and which will make me happy as I would devote myself to her.. Oh, also my ex girlfriend has been calling and I ignore her. Please give me some good advise.. Sorry this was too long. Thank You, Alex.

I forgot to mention her and her husband separated a few days go, she is on her own now,

Well, your not the only person with bad luck, trust me I feel your pain, but I think this situation would have been better to have not happened. What I mean is, you might not want to here it but uou clearly like her, and she likes you, but she is to confused to make any real commitments because like you, she's probably had issues with guys in the past. But she also sounds a bit paranoid, and that's always a bad thing. I say you should keep her as a friend if you can but look for other people, and don't try to force anything with people. Oh and by the way, it doesn't matter how good looking you are, because (now I don't want to be stereotypical) but girls don't generally judge a guy by his looks, when looking for a serious relationship