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football101
Jul 10, 2011, 07:06 PM
I have questions my baby momma and I have a 10 month old child. I have stop talking due to disagreements and arguments. We stop talking and started to go to counseling therapy in for the sake of our daughter and try to come to some agreement on things and the best way to go about it.

We stop talking about 3 months ago, and my question to you all she started to date another man, now she is telling me she is in love, want to have kids with him and get married. Also 2 months ago she started a new nursing job 3 to 4 nights a week 7pm-9am crazy hours and days remind you we have a new born. We don’t live together and the days she works nights I watch my daughter and also give her one day off to do what she wants to do.

The main concern here is my daughter; she is using bad judgment to me and is not thinking about my daughter best interest at this point.

I am ready to try to get full custody of my daughter to make sure she is in a stable home not house to house each day and be a role model for her. I guess I am confused of why she would take a night job making less money than before and with a newborn and only sees her maybe 2 full days per week, and talking about marriage , kids and moving in with a guy she doesn’t really no. And he already has baby momma drama and a cop. What should I do need answer because emotionally it is killing me. And my daughter cries when her mother picks her up doesn’t want to go with her and wants to stay with me at 10 months please shed some light women and men?

cdad
Jul 10, 2011, 07:10 PM
You go to court and establish custody. You go tomorrow and file right away. It would be best to have a lawyer if you can but you can still get things started. It sounds like your at a point of primary custody at this time so be sure to ask for that in your papers (pleadings) to the court.

football101
Jul 10, 2011, 07:21 PM
So you think that is best I do so understand my situation?

cdad
Jul 11, 2011, 03:28 AM
Yes, that is the best thing for you and your child is to settle everything through the courts and it cuts down on the game playing later.

ScottGem
Jul 11, 2011, 03:35 AM
First, while I agree that you should go to court to establish primary custody and visitation, etc. I don't agree that she is showing bad judgment and a court is likely not to agree either. Many people work night shifts. Generally this means more money. Also nursing is considered a noble profession. And the fact that she believes she is in love with someo9ne and wants to make a life with them, is not a problem unless this person is really bad news.

If you go into court and use these reasons for changing custody I think you will lose. You really need an attorney to tell you what will and won't work.