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Ayoo' Boriqua
Jul 9, 2011, 09:58 AM
Well , I'm 14 years old and I lost trust with my parents . Especially my dad , I've tried to show them that I am sorry for what I have done . It's been 2 days since everything has happened . And they haven't spoken to me , it feels like their ignoring me . Which I think is clearly unfair here . I'm only 14 and I'm still a child , Everyone makes mistakes and I clearly made mine . But it turned out to be bad , but I just don't understand before any of this happened my dad told me everyone makes mistakes , when their young or even old . So I go back to what he says and look , He's been ignoring me . Can anyone tell me what is best to do ?
Wondergirl
Jul 9, 2011, 10:04 AM
What have you done to show them you are sorry?
Please give specific examples of how they are ignoring you. (It "feels like it" or they really are?)
Ayoo' Boriqua
Jul 9, 2011, 10:15 AM
Well , what I did was to steal from a very expensive store with my friends which they made me do . I regret very part of it . And for the ignoring well I ask them something they don't want to answer . Or even look at me , which to me I think is a down fall :(
Wondergirl
Jul 9, 2011, 10:22 AM
Well , what I did was to steal from a very expensive store with my friends which they made me do .
No, they did NOT make you do it. You chose to do it. You could have said no and walked away.
Always remember how strong peer pressure is, but you can always refuse to participate. In fact, your refusal might help other kids say no too.
And for the ignoring well I ask them something they don't want to answer . Or even look at me , which to me I think is a down fall :(
Do you think this is in your imagination out of guilt, or do they really ignore you?
Do they talk to you at all?
Your actions have shamed your parents. Their child is now on record as a thief. Please try to understand how they feel. Is your family Asian, by any chance?
Ayoo' Boriqua
Jul 9, 2011, 10:25 AM
No , we're Puerto Rican .
Wondergirl
Jul 9, 2011, 10:31 AM
Have you told your parents that you will never give in to peer pressure again?
Ask them what work you can do around the house (or elsewhere) to begin to make up for your mistake. Words are easy to say, but showing with actions that you are sorry will help heal everyone.
talaniman
Jul 9, 2011, 12:22 PM
Once trust is broken by such very bad behavior, it takes time and actions to regain it, through good deeds and behavior. Two days is hardly enough. They are right, because what you have done deserves a LOT more than just two days. They will be mad and dissapointed for a long time, and you better be on your best behavior.
Stealing is not something to be forgiven for easily or quickly, and suffering is part of the punishment. Yes we all make mistakes, and we pay for them before we are forgiven, and the slate wiped clean. When they are sure you have suffered enough from YOUR own bad behavior, they will talk to you again.
You are old enough to know better.