VinnyC
Jul 8, 2011, 10:23 AM
I just recently found out my wife has been cheating with an ex of hers for the last 3 months - We have only been married for 15 months and have a baby girl together -
First I don't know what has happened to me I have always considered myself a good person. My parents have been married for over 50 years and I've seen what it takes to make a marriage work - I waited until I was in my mid 30's before I made the step for marriage because I wanted to be certain it would last forever. I thought I had finally found that person and devoted myself to her and my son like no other. I have provided a wonderful house and we don't want for money or anything. At night I would go to bed and think wow this was the best day of my life and it just kept getting better until the day I found out -
I found out she had snuck out of the house at 5:30am while my son and I were sleeping to see this person - the only way to describe the way I feel is by comparing it to losing a loved one - I go through bouts of trying to be nice to her to crying uncontrollably to being so angry at her and what she has done - the thing that really hurts is it took her 3 days to decide if she was going to be with me and my daughter - I try and put myself in those shoes and my comment would be yes I want to stay and I'll do anything to make this work but I feel like I'm trying to keep her -
I understand you can't make someone love you and that hurts especially when you feel that and you have a young daughter involved - I don't know what to do - anybody that has been in a situation like this I would appreciate any help or words you might have to offer - It has taken every ounce I have to get out of bed and continue my day - I know time helps but right now that seems so far off - What is the best thing for my daughter - I thought I had a good head on my shoulders and know right from wrong but to be honest I am lost and have no idea what's best
First I don't know what has happened to me I have always considered myself a good person. My parents have been married for over 50 years and I've seen what it takes to make a marriage work - I waited until I was in my mid 30's before I made the step for marriage because I wanted to be certain it would last forever. I thought I had finally found that person and devoted myself to her and my son like no other. I have provided a wonderful house and we don't want for money or anything. At night I would go to bed and think wow this was the best day of my life and it just kept getting better until the day I found out -
I found out she had snuck out of the house at 5:30am while my son and I were sleeping to see this person - the only way to describe the way I feel is by comparing it to losing a loved one - I go through bouts of trying to be nice to her to crying uncontrollably to being so angry at her and what she has done - the thing that really hurts is it took her 3 days to decide if she was going to be with me and my daughter - I try and put myself in those shoes and my comment would be yes I want to stay and I'll do anything to make this work but I feel like I'm trying to keep her -
I understand you can't make someone love you and that hurts especially when you feel that and you have a young daughter involved - I don't know what to do - anybody that has been in a situation like this I would appreciate any help or words you might have to offer - It has taken every ounce I have to get out of bed and continue my day - I know time helps but right now that seems so far off - What is the best thing for my daughter - I thought I had a good head on my shoulders and know right from wrong but to be honest I am lost and have no idea what's best