Hi,Im 21,a student and I am in love with this guy I quite often see in campus.But,he is so shy,reserved,secretive and it seems like nothing interests him but his science.Recently I began wondering if he is gay,and I think I ll go crazy.Being as shy as I am,I never approached him,although I ve been feeling like this about him for two years.From the first moment I saw him,I felt that he is the most beautiful person,not just outside,but inside,too,I don't know how I know that,but I do.Since I lately been torturing myself about whether he's gay or not,I decided to accept that he is,although I will never know for certain,and started wondering about my own sexuality.I ve been in love only twice,with him and a guy before,but I can't be easily attracted.I admit that Brad Pitt is handsome,but I would never fall for him.And,while watching movies,I am always excited when a girl gets her close off,but not when men do.I don't feel attracted to any girl from my surroundings,but sometimes I have fantasies about meeting some girl and being with her.I can't really decide is that kind of feeling real or just a phase or a consequence of this dissapointment.

The best way to talk to a guy with a known interest is to ask him about it. Ask questions, listen.. Then find out more about him. Don't assume a guy is gay until you see him "friendly" with a guy. Don't be afraid to be the one to do things either. It's just as hard for the guy to make the first move! So just do it! If he doesn't seem into you, oh well, nothing lost. It's not like you're losing your only or best friend..
Also about the girl thing, totally normal. Speaking from experience, I feel the same way. Guys bodies are just not attractive, but I've tried relationships with girls and guys (many of each).Personally, The guys always feel more right for me.. Having many Lesbian friends, I've talked to them about it, and they knew at a young age. When we were all in elementary school, we were crushing on the cute boys, and they were crushing on cute girls.
Stop making excuses and just go for it. :P