I have been in a relationship with this guy for quite some time now. I have always known about him being a little bit of a hot head! He says he wants me to know that he feels like were equals and talk to him about anything. When I try to talk to him even if its about my day I do tend to get a little sidetracked when I'm talking and forget what I'm saying at points but even so, he gets mad and sits there is like oh my god what the f**k you can't even carry on a damn conversation. Or if he asks me a question and I don't answer him fast enough he gets angry with me. Hes never been physical and if he gets angry to a certain point he starts saying mean things. He knows when he gets to angry and he will just leave the house, sometimes not coming back! His temper does make me nervous but who likes to get yelled at! He always says he's sorry and he talks about everything after but when I try to say my opinion he tells me just shut up stop talking and listen to what I have to say you might learn something! How do I handle this! I don't want to leave him so that's not and option I truly love him and he says he truly loves me but I don't know how to talk to him about this problem without making him really angry! How do I handle it!

You don't. Its his problem to handle his own temper, and the best thing you can do is not put up with this behavior because it will get worse. Much worse.

When you accept bad behavior, and reward it by staying with him, you invite even more bad behavior. Go now BEFORE it gets worse, and never look back, ever.

Run like the devil is chasing you, because he is.

His anger is nothing to belittle.

Don't let this turn into something where you may be physically harmed.

You are already being harmed emotionally. You can't live like this or allow it.

He needs professional help with his anger & emotions.
If he is unwilling to get help, or you are unable to communicate with him, I would part.

Make sure that you tell EVERYONE what's going on now. Friends, family, coworkers, whoever you trust. Any authorities.
I would suggest seeking out local social services too. They can help advise you.

This is clearly abuse.

There is book about these types of relationships it's called toxic relationships: how to regain lost power, it may help you to get a better understanding with what is happening to you. Unfortunately honey there is nothing you can do about him as you can not change anyone. He has to change for himself, but you can control how you handle the situation,define the inner you and seek your higher self to learn what is that you need to do in hopes of making this relationship last.

Blessing in love and light