I recently broke up with a guy I really really liked because I was told he was cheating on me. But I can't help wondering if he really did cheat as I was too upset and hurt to ask him straight if he did. The person who told me was a close friend of mine, but she was also his ex from a couple years ago and I feel she may have been hurt and/or upset by the fact that we were going out. I couldn't help wondering if she was just trying to split us up, and I really miss him and, although I don't want her to have lyed to me, I desperatly want her to just be making it up, I obviously don't want him to have cheated but I want to know the truth. Whatever it is. I'm just to scared to ask him. Any advice on what I should do would be hugely appreciated. Thanks x

You could always hire a private investigator - if you have the money. A PI may or may not be able to find anything conclusive, particularly what was going on "then."

Another option is to ask your "friend" for more details.

A third option is to ask you "ex." I have no idea why you are scared to ask him. You're already broken up. If he was cheating it's a good thing that you dumped him.

If he was not cheating you have accused him falsely and he is probably done with you.

Less than a month ago you were trying to choose between two men - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/cant-choose-between-crush-bf-584717.html. Apparently you made your choice - ?

Why listen to gossip rather than asking the man himself?

Ask him,if your still on speaking terms.

I think you made a mistake acting on information you did not know to be a fact.

This is not the time to be fact finding. The damage is done and may be too much to try to get over should you find he was not cheating.

I try to avoid major decisions while in a fit of rage. They haven't worked out well for me.