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jojo1008
Jul 2, 2011, 09:00 AM
I need some advice on what I can do because today I have been told that if my daughter comes back up north with me from my partners parents then I will get her took off me and she will go into foster care
Fr_Chuck
Jul 2, 2011, 09:09 AM
Who told you that ? Sounds like someone is just trying to scare you.
First you have a child, and for some reason the child is living with your Partner ? Parents.
So
1. where do you live ? What county, if the US what state
2. partner ? Same sex ? Married ?
3. is there a custody agreement ?
4. assuming the parent is the other parent, who is on the birth certificate.
5. if there is a custoty agreement now, who has custody.
6. Normally you can not leave the state with a child without permission of the court or the other parent. If you do they can file in court to make you return with the child, as not to stop them from having visits.
So try giving us enough info so that we can help
jojo1008
Jul 2, 2011, 09:15 AM
Who told you that ? Sounds like someone is just trying to scare you. My partners mum told him this morning
Yes I have a child
1. england
2. partner ?
3. is there a custody agreement no ?
4. assuming the parent is the other parent, who is on the birth certificate. Yes
5. if there is a custoty agreement now, who has custody. No one has custody because my partner is away in the army so I have my child all the time but at the moment she is with her grandparents in west midlands
6. Normally you can not leave the state with a child without permission of the court or the other parent. If you do they can file in court to make you return with the child, as not to stop them from having visits.there is no court order but my partners parents are being unfair to my family with my daughter
So try giving us enough info so that we can help
joypulv
Jul 2, 2011, 10:23 AM
Do you think your partner's mother just wants to keep the child or what is her reasoning?
- Why did you leave the child with her?
- Do you have a suitable place to live?
- Do you have the money to care for the child?
- Are you a minor?
- Have you had a history of any trouble with the law?
- Did the child have any health problems when left with the grandmother?
jojo1008
Jul 2, 2011, 10:54 AM
Well yes that what my mum thinks, it was just so we could sort the house out but she not playing fair with my family anymore she wants to keep her so I need some advice on what I can do yes I can go and live with my auntie if I need some where with my daughter to so I can get sorted yes I have money 2 care for my daughter
ScottGem
Jul 2, 2011, 03:20 PM
She is your daughter and the grandparents have no rights. If they try to prevent you from leaving with your daughter, call the police.
They cannot take your daughter away unless they can prove you unfit.
jojo1008
Jul 2, 2011, 03:23 PM
Well I am going up Monday 2 collect her and if they won't give her me then I will be calling the police. I haavent been told that I am unfit to look after her I just got called it off my partners sister she called me an unfit mum am not fit 2 look after my own daughter
ScottGem
Jul 2, 2011, 03:31 PM
I would go to the local constabulary before you go pickup your daughter. Bring proof she is your daughter (copy of birth certificate or similar), explain that you have heard from your in-laws that they will not allow you to pick up your daughter. Ask if a constable can accompany you or whether one will come if they refuse to turn over the child.
You will probably need to explain why she is staying with the grandparents.
jojo1008
Jul 2, 2011, 03:36 PM
Yea I can do that I have her birth certificate I will explain to them what is happening and that my parents want to see her as well but they are stopping them from seeing her if she is down there and that not playing fair in my eyes :( thanks for the advice so far any more much appreciated
ScottGem
Jul 2, 2011, 03:37 PM
Good luck and keep us posted.
jojo1008
Jul 2, 2011, 03:38 PM
Yes I will keep you posted thanks for the help Gem scott x