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countrygirl2713
Jul 1, 2011, 09:41 PM
I have been married to my husband for 8 months. Things were great at first, but recently I don't feel like he loves me anymore. We fight all the time. He picks on me constantly. I am so tired of walking on egg shells. I feel like I have anxiety all the time. He seems to get mad at everything I say. If I don't talk, it's wrong too. It's like no matter what I do, it is wrong. Sometimes I just can't take it anymore when I am being picked on and guess what? It is my fault. It is always my fault. I'm tired of trying to think before I speak. Sometimes I just want to be myself and just talk, but it always ends up in a fight. I do everything I can to make him happy. I cook, clean, and even stay at home and raise his 3 kids like they are my own. He tells me I don't try, but I try so hard and it's just not good enough. I have no family and I really don't have any friends. I have no one to talk to, but him. Sometimes I want to leave, but I am a stay at home mom. I have no money and no one to turn to. I just wish he would love me like I love him. Often I think about just ending it all, but I can't leave my 2 children who would be lost without me. I just try to make it one day at a time, but it's getting harder and harder. My husband makes me feel all alone. So I guess my question is what does a person do in my situation? Do I just stay where I am or what other solution is there? Help me please.

Jake2008
Jul 3, 2011, 06:02 AM
Are you saying that marrying him was a mistake? If you've only been married 8 months, unless his life was drastically changed somehow, and he is a different person than he was 8 months ago, why did you marry him.

The kind of behaviour you speak of, doesn't happen overnight. I take it he has full custody of his two children from a previous relationship, and he has one with you?

What did you do before you married him, and why can't you work if you want to- even part time. Being without an income now, does not mean you have to live a life that is not working.

If your marriage is worth saving, what about marriage counselling to figure out how the two of you can make mutually beneficial changes first, before you throw in the towel.

If the situation is intolerable to the extent that you are feeling like you "want to end it all", it would probably be a good idea for you to go yourself for counselling to help you sort out what you can do to improve your life.

If you are better off without him, if that is what you are saying, there is help available. If you want changes in your relationship, there is also help for that. Because you have children that are dependent on both of you, even if for their sake, is help not worth considering?

CB<3<3
Jul 26, 2011, 12:35 PM
Well you could file a divorce and try and get custody of your children as throughout reading this question yor husband seems quite aggressive if you get what I mean and it could result in something bad happenig and both of you losing custody of your children