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babychick2
Jun 30, 2011, 03:23 PM
I have 3 brothers and 1 sister. Nowadays we have noticed that we are becoming very isolated from our parents. What can be the causes and how to solve them? Another question I have is that my brother wants to stay away from his parents and demands to leave him in this own world for example staying in the room for hours without talking to anybody and doing whatever he wants. And if we try to explain anything to him,he gets further irritated and does the opposite. How can we solve his problem? My parents are very tensed and upset with this issue. I need urgent help! Thank you!

talaniman
Jun 30, 2011, 03:36 PM
How old are your brother, and sisters? Seems to me as kids get older, they become more independent of their parents, and that changes the family dynamic. Changes such as growing up, require adjustments from everyone, and that can be tense, and upsetting.

babychick2
Jul 1, 2011, 05:17 AM
My brother is 19 years and sister is 15!

HurtScorpio
Jul 12, 2011, 06:00 PM
Actually at these ages, I think the need for privacy and distancing one's self from parents and or other siblings can be common due to the need to seeking their own identity and mainly, just wanting to learn about themselves. Unless, you are seeing worrisome signs - are they depressed, how are they acting? Moodiness for the 15 year old is definitely going to be common and maybe even the 19 year old. Most teens in the 13-17 age range often do not want to be seen w/parents in public or are embarrassed easily -that is common. What are your worries? Troubles in school? More details are needed I think to understand. How old are you?

nasilele
Jul 18, 2011, 09:56 AM
I have two siblings. I am the last born. I still live at home with my parents because I am about to graduate from university. My two older siblings do not even speak to my parents anymore. I am barely on speaking terms with them and our relationship is unstable. One minute we're all eating diner at the table, the next everyone is trying to get out the house and away from each other's faces. I spend a lot of time in my room. My parents have nick named me the hotel guest. I do not spend all my time there because I am avoiding them, I am not a socialite. I enjoy solitude more than I do company, even of my family. Perhaps this developed because we are a dysfunctional family, but either way my friends have noted that it is a character that is now stuck with me. I do not know your brother's reasons for living in his room, but it seems to me that no matter what the case may be he needs his space. But do get worried if he begins to show unusual behavior and extreme moodiness. Perhaps he is depressed and because he is always in his room, you may never notice till it is too late.