Hi,

I would first like to say I'm gay and I cheated on my boyfriend, several days ago. We both have a friend where he works that when we are both drunk, we start messing around, kissing each other, in front of everyone. Well a few days ago, I didn't quite go that way, we were both extremely drunk we ended up kissing each other in a different room to my boyfriend, very passionately. We didn't have any form of sex and I stopped it when hands started to slide towards the groin region. He confessed how long he has "liked" me and I confessed I kind of liked him too.

I've told my boyfriend all, he doesn't seem to bothered by the whole thing and says he trusts me, he knows I would never go further then kissing and that if I did kiss him again it would be a different story.

The main problem is me. I feel like ****, I can't apologise enough, I said how routine our 6 year relationship is and I liked the whole spontaneous kiss I had with our friend. But I can't stop thinking of how good it was, how long it's been since I've done that. Yes, I do like the other guy, more then a friend, but no way would anything happen, it's just we're so different and this whole things out of character for me. Me and my boyfriend are perfect together and we never really have many problems. I love him and I know he loves me. I just can't stop thinking about it and it's driving me insane!

Tempting I know, but staying within the boundaries of good behavior is what you must do, especially knowing what the consequences of bad behavior is.

Probably help if you took steps to not be alone with this guy, especially since alcohol affects your good common sense. Drunk is NOT an excuse, so don't try making it one, or justify not being able to help yourself, so stop kissing the dude, and teasing yourself.

Then you won't feel like ****!!

If you know you love your boyfriend and don't want to spoil what you have with him,you need to forget your friend and thaat kiss.

If you really love your boyfriend have enough respect to not hurt him. You can't control your thoughts annd if you are maybe more attracted to this other person so much, maybe you should not be in a relationship. You should feel guilty becausee you messed up! You hurt someone that you are saying you love and it would be odd if you didn't feel guilty.