birdieboy2
Jun 24, 2011, 09:19 PM
I started going out with my ex at the beginning of February 2010, which was the middle of freshman year in high school for me. We had known each other since 6th grade because we rode the same school bus. She was my first girlfriend and I was her first boyfriend.
The first seven months were absolutely amazing. We chatted each other every night and we talked each other to sleep on the phone every night. She would come home from school with me almost every day and we would just hang at my house 4-5 days a week. We never lost our virginity to each other, but we definitely screwed around a lot even though we tried to take things slow.
The last five months was like a slow death to our relationship. Sophomore year had started and she decided to really get involved with extracurricular activities because she wanted a good record for college. Eventually, our 4-5 days a week turned to 1-2 days a week. I realize that I was being way too clingy and I needed her too much, but at the time, going from 4-5 days to 1-2 days really hit me hard.
As time went on, I would tell her to drop her activities and hang with me more, and I would seem irritated whenever she wanted to hang with her friends. This created kind of a snowball effect because she started to seem less interested in hanging with me and wanted to spend more time with her friends.
Another problem was her father. Over the summer and back in Freshman year, we were allowed to go see movies at night, and I took her to dinner on many occasions. However, once sophomore year started, he made a “6 o'clock” rule which meant that I couldn't hang with her later than 6 pm. Since almost all my free time is after 6 pm, I was pretty upset and I asked my ex to ask her father.
Every time, she would say that her dad didn't really “give an answer that made sense” or she would give me an answer that didn't make sense. This lead to me losing my temper at her and being frustrated because she could never give a clear answer.
On our one year anniversary in February 2011, she chatted me and said that she really wished we could hit 2 years . This proved to be short lived because she dumped me over chat a week later, on the day before Valentine's Day. I spent that last night at her house, where I broke down and cried into her shoulder. She was also on the verge of tears and I asked if we were done FOREVER. She said that she didn't know if it was over FOREVER, but she definitely needed it done for the time being.
On the week following the breakup, we had friendly chats initiated by both me and her. However, I got really annoying because I wanted to talk about the breakup all the time. She started to become unresponsive. I got tired so I asked a mutual friend for help.
I finally got what I did wrong and how I hurt my ex. I sent my ex a long apology email stating everything I did wrong. She responded back saying that she was glad I understood, but she felt there was too much pain in the way for us to get back together.
After this email, things seemed to flow much more smoothly between us. We greeted each other in the halls at school every few days and she would always talk to me with a smile. It seemed like we were trying to rebuild our friendship. However, I screwed up really badly again. I heard a few rumors about her which was a really big deal for me. Eventually, my curiosity got the best of me, and I went onto her email and Facebook to snoop around.
She figured it out and she freaked at me over email and told me to stay the hell away from her and her stuff. I called her to apologize, and to my surprise she answered. I said that I was truly sorry and that the rumors I was hearing mattered to me too much and that I needed to find out the truth. She didn't seem angry by the end of the phone call, but she sounded truly sad and disappointed in me. She told me not to talk to her until she was ready.
A month passed without us talking, but in class I always caught her glancing at me. She would regularly look my direction when she talked with friends and whenever I glanced back she would quickly look away. When I was flirting with the hot girl in our class, my ex would always look up at us and look away quickly with jealousy all over her face. During lunch, when I am playing Ultimate on the field, she would just sit on the field with her friends and watch me. When we were dating, she often told me many times that she loved watching me play during lunch.
On the last day of school, I was passing my yearbook to her friends to sign. My ex grabbed my yearbook and looked through my signatures. She noticed that the hot girl signed my yearbook with a lot of hearts and she quickly closed the book and threw it back on my table without looking at me.
Later that day, I hesitantly texted her and told her to have a great summer and have fun on her vacation. She responded back saying “Thanks, that's nice of you. Hope you have fun if you're going anywhere too.”
Basically, what I want to know is whether we have a shot or not in the future. Even though she told me to move on because there was too much pain in the way, I have a gut feeling that she still cares about me.
The first seven months were absolutely amazing. We chatted each other every night and we talked each other to sleep on the phone every night. She would come home from school with me almost every day and we would just hang at my house 4-5 days a week. We never lost our virginity to each other, but we definitely screwed around a lot even though we tried to take things slow.
The last five months was like a slow death to our relationship. Sophomore year had started and she decided to really get involved with extracurricular activities because she wanted a good record for college. Eventually, our 4-5 days a week turned to 1-2 days a week. I realize that I was being way too clingy and I needed her too much, but at the time, going from 4-5 days to 1-2 days really hit me hard.
As time went on, I would tell her to drop her activities and hang with me more, and I would seem irritated whenever she wanted to hang with her friends. This created kind of a snowball effect because she started to seem less interested in hanging with me and wanted to spend more time with her friends.
Another problem was her father. Over the summer and back in Freshman year, we were allowed to go see movies at night, and I took her to dinner on many occasions. However, once sophomore year started, he made a “6 o'clock” rule which meant that I couldn't hang with her later than 6 pm. Since almost all my free time is after 6 pm, I was pretty upset and I asked my ex to ask her father.
Every time, she would say that her dad didn't really “give an answer that made sense” or she would give me an answer that didn't make sense. This lead to me losing my temper at her and being frustrated because she could never give a clear answer.
On our one year anniversary in February 2011, she chatted me and said that she really wished we could hit 2 years . This proved to be short lived because she dumped me over chat a week later, on the day before Valentine's Day. I spent that last night at her house, where I broke down and cried into her shoulder. She was also on the verge of tears and I asked if we were done FOREVER. She said that she didn't know if it was over FOREVER, but she definitely needed it done for the time being.
On the week following the breakup, we had friendly chats initiated by both me and her. However, I got really annoying because I wanted to talk about the breakup all the time. She started to become unresponsive. I got tired so I asked a mutual friend for help.
I finally got what I did wrong and how I hurt my ex. I sent my ex a long apology email stating everything I did wrong. She responded back saying that she was glad I understood, but she felt there was too much pain in the way for us to get back together.
After this email, things seemed to flow much more smoothly between us. We greeted each other in the halls at school every few days and she would always talk to me with a smile. It seemed like we were trying to rebuild our friendship. However, I screwed up really badly again. I heard a few rumors about her which was a really big deal for me. Eventually, my curiosity got the best of me, and I went onto her email and Facebook to snoop around.
She figured it out and she freaked at me over email and told me to stay the hell away from her and her stuff. I called her to apologize, and to my surprise she answered. I said that I was truly sorry and that the rumors I was hearing mattered to me too much and that I needed to find out the truth. She didn't seem angry by the end of the phone call, but she sounded truly sad and disappointed in me. She told me not to talk to her until she was ready.
A month passed without us talking, but in class I always caught her glancing at me. She would regularly look my direction when she talked with friends and whenever I glanced back she would quickly look away. When I was flirting with the hot girl in our class, my ex would always look up at us and look away quickly with jealousy all over her face. During lunch, when I am playing Ultimate on the field, she would just sit on the field with her friends and watch me. When we were dating, she often told me many times that she loved watching me play during lunch.
On the last day of school, I was passing my yearbook to her friends to sign. My ex grabbed my yearbook and looked through my signatures. She noticed that the hot girl signed my yearbook with a lot of hearts and she quickly closed the book and threw it back on my table without looking at me.
Later that day, I hesitantly texted her and told her to have a great summer and have fun on her vacation. She responded back saying “Thanks, that's nice of you. Hope you have fun if you're going anywhere too.”
Basically, what I want to know is whether we have a shot or not in the future. Even though she told me to move on because there was too much pain in the way, I have a gut feeling that she still cares about me.