View Full Version : She doesn't trust me?
timmkush
Jun 21, 2011, 12:42 AM
My wife constantly thinks I'm cheating on her, or have the intention to. Severely she has caused me to contemplate the comfort of other women, but I don't succumb. How can I reassure her?
fallintoautumn
Jun 21, 2011, 01:07 AM
Do you have any idea what might be causing your wife's insecurity?
Was she cheated on in the past?
Does she think you're losing interest in her?
If you sit down and talk to her about why she's so worried, maybe you can figure out the root of the problem. Without knowing the reason behind her distrust, all you can do is reassure her of your fidelity.
ydaisysm
Jun 21, 2011, 02:03 AM
You ccan talk to her about it and let her see things prom your point of view. Buy her gifts for no reason, take how out for dinner and turn up at her work place just to surprise her so that she can see how much you care about her so she is more likely to believe it. A man once said "actions speak louder than words" so maybe this will convince your wife of your loyalty
talaniman
Jun 21, 2011, 10:57 AM
You must first find out WHY she feels as she does.
Cat1864
Jun 21, 2011, 12:09 PM
Some things to think about when you talk to your wife about the issue:
Have you examined your own behavior to see where she might be getting that idea?
Are there things that you are doing or saying that seem innocent to you but may have a different meaning from her perspective?
Is this a new problem or has it been on-going? If new, what has changed?
Sometimes when we feel unfairly accused of something we get defensive and don't look at the situation from the other person's perspective. If you keep an open mind about why she feels the way she does, you should be able to find a way as a couple to fix the issues. Hopefully, if she sees that you are willing to listen to her, she will be less defensive about her position and any misunderstandings can be dealt with quickly and efficiently.
However, get the thought out of your mind that because she accuses you of cheating that you might as well. If you can't work out the issues together, try counseling or dissolve the marriage. No one can make you cheat if that isn't something you aren't already willing to do and if things are that bad, then don't make them worse by trying to stay.