View Full Version : Should I end this relationship?
Kiddybaby
Jan 29, 2007, 07:47 AM
I have been with my boyfriend for close to 2 years and we have been living together for a year. He does not tell me he loves me and I am thinking about leaving the relationship because of it. He is great to me and my 2 children. He brought us to meet his family. He is always there he is in tune with me he supports me through everything. I trust him and I believe we have a solid relationship. He says that he has never loved any woman before. He has a good relationship with his mom which he includes me in. He says that love is something you build over time but I think it is that time. Besides that there is nothing else that I would ask of him... he has been the best guy I have ever been with.
Not hearing the words is not comforting to me. Every once in a while I get the urge to tell him to leave me alone. Would I be making a mistake? :(
KATWOMANMEOW2002
Jan 29, 2007, 08:35 AM
No,I think you should give him time.what I think is that 2 years its not enough time to know a person it takes longer.it could be the his prior relationships it wasn't no love or his family.His good to you and your kid give him time
manimuth
Jan 29, 2007, 09:06 AM
Even though he hasn't said the words, he sure seems to treat you like he loves you. Don't put so much weight on words. Take a look at how he treats you and your children and you will hear the words without him ever uttering them. I believe you would be losing a great man and a good relationship if you leave because of 3 words. He is showing you that you are important to him... just give him time to actually say it.
Tuscany
Jan 29, 2007, 09:11 AM
You are willing to throw away a great relationship because of 3 words? It sounds like this man is a great rolemodel for your children and a strong caring man for you. He is right, love is something you build. And although he has not said it, his actions seem to show it. Have you said it to him?
ForeverZero
Jan 29, 2007, 09:28 AM
The story you've told leads me to believe you don't really want to leave him at all, so look at the logistics of what would happen if you did. You'd leave, he'd want you back, and probobly offer to say it. Then you get what you want, and when he starts saying it you'll realize he doesn't mean it, and is only doing it because he wants to keep you around. Is that what you really want?
Wildcat21
Jan 29, 2007, 09:50 AM
The question IS dos he show he loves you?? Does he show it??
I have you asked him about this??
Communication is KING!! You need to tell him how you feel before any harsh. Drastic moves.
Please sit down with him - please - I na nice way - tel lhim to listen.
Kiddybaby
Jan 29, 2007, 09:58 AM
He shows he loves me in a million ways. And according to him actions speak louder than words. We have excellent communication all the time and he definitely knows how I feel. What is he getting by holding on to his feelings? I hold back a part of myself because I don't know what is his motive for hanging around if he does not love me. He is a single guy with no children and no connection to anyone else so what is the problem... I don't get it.
s_cianci
Jan 29, 2007, 10:16 AM
And you want to end this relationship because.. Remember, talk is cheap. Anyone can say 3 little, one-syllable words such as "I love you." Showing it with actions is what's important, not saying it. And this guy seems to be showing it with his actions.