zuluone
Jun 19, 2011, 05:13 AM
hi there
I have been together with my girlfriend for 3 years now we have been inseparable doing things together all the time and sharing so many things with one another, we are like soul mates I love her so so much and I miss her so much when I am not with her and I cannot imagine my life without her.
About a month ago I made a horrible stupid drunken mistake and let myself and her down and betrayed her by sleeping with another woman.I don't know why it just happened on the spur of the momment.
I tried to tell her that this had happened but now in hindsight I did not and wish I had. I thought I could go on lying without her finding out. About 2 weeks after this happened, a random person on the internet wrote to her and told her her that I had been cheating. I told her it was some one trying to mess with her and us and it was not true. However the situation got worse and worse and more messages came. The other girl who I had made the mistake was also getting these messages and they were being sent to her boyfriend. My whole world started caving in I did not know who this person was yet I did not want to tell the truth. Finally I told her what had happened and it was horrible because I HAD lied to her saying that whoever this person was a sick person trying to ruin out relationship.
I have told her the whole truth now but I think she is never going to be able to forget it, and rightly so.
We live together and I don't know what to do? We have made so much effort with the house and we were finally feeling like it is a proper home. I don't have many Places to go, as most people I know have left town. I have to be around because of my job, but its going to be so hard to see one another every day and not be able to be emotionally close. I know space is the only cure for this but It is extremely hard as neither of us have alternate places we can go. I have thought about booking two weeks off and going away is this GOOD IDEA?
I know that I want to be with her forever and I want to fight for her but I don't know the best way to start doing this, she is the love of my life.
How do I get her to trust me again?
I have been together with my girlfriend for 3 years now we have been inseparable doing things together all the time and sharing so many things with one another, we are like soul mates I love her so so much and I miss her so much when I am not with her and I cannot imagine my life without her.
About a month ago I made a horrible stupid drunken mistake and let myself and her down and betrayed her by sleeping with another woman.I don't know why it just happened on the spur of the momment.
I tried to tell her that this had happened but now in hindsight I did not and wish I had. I thought I could go on lying without her finding out. About 2 weeks after this happened, a random person on the internet wrote to her and told her her that I had been cheating. I told her it was some one trying to mess with her and us and it was not true. However the situation got worse and worse and more messages came. The other girl who I had made the mistake was also getting these messages and they were being sent to her boyfriend. My whole world started caving in I did not know who this person was yet I did not want to tell the truth. Finally I told her what had happened and it was horrible because I HAD lied to her saying that whoever this person was a sick person trying to ruin out relationship.
I have told her the whole truth now but I think she is never going to be able to forget it, and rightly so.
We live together and I don't know what to do? We have made so much effort with the house and we were finally feeling like it is a proper home. I don't have many Places to go, as most people I know have left town. I have to be around because of my job, but its going to be so hard to see one another every day and not be able to be emotionally close. I know space is the only cure for this but It is extremely hard as neither of us have alternate places we can go. I have thought about booking two weeks off and going away is this GOOD IDEA?
I know that I want to be with her forever and I want to fight for her but I don't know the best way to start doing this, she is the love of my life.
How do I get her to trust me again?