He was my friend's boyfriend. My friend-in her adolescence got attracted to an older man and sulked into great depression
At that point she met this boy somehow miraculously-and he immediately took her under his wings. And their romance started. My friend, however,wasn't actually in love with him. She was burdened with obligation. He loved her, possessively,and deeply,as if burning her with his passion.

On a social occasion I met with him. My friend introduced us. And very quickly we found solace in each other. Maybe it was his burning passion,his unquestioned loyalty! I was attracted like a magnet to him,and it seemed he was too!! We became the best of friends very soon, and shared almost everything. I was basically the care-giver,he whined about things he has to put through sacrifices he has to made-to continue with my friend and yet not being happy of her non-committal re-action. I understood his pain,deeply sympathized with him,and considered him as my brother!!

But very soon he began to behave oddly. Started to avoid me and show tantrums with me. Just few days ago-i was such an integral part of his life, he couldn't even endure a day without talking to me-now he started behaving like I am only a mere friend. During the same time-frame his parents migrated oversees,and he started to live alone and faced consequent strains. The more I tried to provide him friendly care,the more mysteriously he behaved!! One day he came and cried to me about his frustrations-the next day he acted cooly with me-speaking less and acting stiff!! He accused me of a number of issues-all of them false. He accused me of sneaking into his life(he suspected me of adding him in Yahoo with an unknown id) . It went on like this for mnths, which drove me into depression as well. And then one night when I accused him as the cause of depression, he uttered such venom that it wasn't possible to continue our relationship. One of the statement he used,which hurted me the most,was-who are u?why will I have to think about you every time? why should I care if you are hurt or not?

We stopped talking. But I'm revengeful nature. As we had common friends,we couldn't avoid meeting. It seemed he is interested to renew the relation. But I never forgot the wound. I acted just normally with him.NORMALLY. Being all frndly mechanically but keeping a profound distance!! that made him restless,and he avoided me!when he avoided me, it made me restless,and I tried to have indirect contact with him. He did encourage indirect contact. Our behavior to each other was strange-he behaved as rudely as is humanely possible,and I pretend to ignore it all-showing I don't care. Meantime,his relationship with my friend slowly declined.he suspected me for that. There were some reasons for suspecting me-some coincidences-but I never wanted them apart. Coincidences happened which created suspicion. Then one night he voraciously attacked me and said he hates me and I am witch!! I replied by hitting him on head with my glass mirror. Blood flew,he left.then the next day we somehow came to a reconcilement and he seek forgiveness. For a week he was very polite,then one day-when he suspected me of poisoning his girlfriend's mind we had a major showdown. After that we talked and fighted on and off.

He ordered his girlfriend not to have anything to do with me. She declined. After that he stopped,destroyed any possible contact source between us!! Some mnths after his relationship finally broke.that was three years ago.we haven't talked three years. Yet I feel for him so deeply,and can't endure at times. Whenever I try to communicate-he does not reply. He acts queerly. Blocks my phn number. The more I try to be close to him,the more he tries to destroy all sources. I haven't got anything frm silence frm him. I accuse him-silence, I plead to him-silence. Never-no reply,dead silence. And queer acts. Like recently I came to see his fb profile(he kept it hidden frm me). I saw his recent pics,and sent him a message saying so. He promptly deleted his fb profile.he could hv only enstrengthen privacy,but he deleted the whole profile!! His friends say, that he isn't over his relationship with my friend yet. That he now knows that I was not the reason behind their relationship-going-off. Yet he never speaks about me and become stiff even at the mention of my name.

My own relationship is being affected for him. I can't help but trying to communicate.and three years of failure has actually made me suicidal!! It is so strange I can't explain!! I think if I can't communicate,I must die.there is no need to live!!

Do I love him? I always loved him as a brother-wanted him as the lover of my friend. But now I do suspect if I love him. And why is he so cruel? does he hate me? WHY? WHY SO CRUELTY?

WHAT I M TO DO? Plsssssss help

He is not on any drugs. I have mild obsession-i m perfectionist.

Get some reality and leave the guy alone. You are far to obsessed, far to dramatic, and far to selfish, and you have to be blind if you don't see he wants nothing at all to do with you.

Let it go, I am sure you have a life without him, don't you?

No, you don't love him, you're obsessed with him, and there's a huge difference.

The fact is, he wants nothing to do with you, yet you still stalk him, still try to contact him. He blocks your calls, and has made it very clear that he's done. Why can't you leave him alone? This isn't love. This is the opposite of love.

If you really do love him, then let him go. Live your life, and let him live his. Stop harassing him, stop trying to contact him, and stop obsessing about him.

You need counseling, and soon. This madness has to stop.

If he may still be in a relationship with your friend then why do you need to talk to him? I thought you didn't want to come in between? Maybe he does kind of like you and therefore is avoiding you but 3 years is a LONG TIME! If he really liked you then he would've talked and or maybe he just knows you'll keep coming back.

So my advice to you is don't talk to him, don't try to make any contact. Focus yourself in other things and if he does like you then he'll get restless and wonder why you've stopped trying to reach him and he'll start to talk to you. But don't think about it. Move on. If he comes back then give him only half your attention, don't get obsessed again. Please. Its not going to do YOU any good.