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My explanation is going to be excessively long, is going to make me seem extremely stupid and silly but I really cannot deny how I feel so please, please give me any thoughtful advice.

I expected this guy to tell me he liked me but he didn't and now high school is officially over for us both. This is the silly part. We have NEVER had a conversation with each other. We are also possibly complete opposites. He’s very popular and confident and if you ever saw him, you would probably stereotype him as the “bad boy� or, dare I say, “gangster.� He had a couple girlfriends before and well he has a reputation for partying. I'm not exactly socially awkward or unpopular. I'm not exactly your standard beauty. I dress well but I'm actually kind of short and chubby. I do not party, drink, or do drugs. I work very hard in school and I take fairly challenging courses. We only had classes together freshman and sophomore year where I shared a couple of honors classes with him. I’m not sure why he took those classes when he kind of slacked off. We have an entirely different group of friends. Mine and his probably never interacted before. In entire high school career, only one guy has publicly announced that he liked me and asked me out. I have never had a boyfriend because I just never felt confident with myself. Why am I so confident that this guy likes me when we never really spoke with each other? I know I am going to sound cocky but basically, he just stares at me. A lot, intensely (I know I sound ridiculous but you’re just going have to take my word). You can literally see his eyes looking up and down at me. We haven’t had a class together since sophomore year but in senior year, our classes were right across from each other. We both had teachers who pretty much allowed us to wonder around a lot. He always walks over to my class and peers into the window where we frequently made eye contact. And when I leave my class room to run an errand, about 5 seconds later he would come out of his own classroom and start walking across towards me and well, he just… stands there looking towards my direction. My friends who know about him and shares classes with him tells me that though he does do his work and gets pretty above average grades, he is really loud, a bit of a class clown and kind of defiant towards the teacher. Although when we shared classes together, he was actually kind of reserved and was pretty friendly and obedient with the teacher.

This might make me sound terrible but I wanted to test him a bit. I had 3 unverified period absents and it really bothered me. My school allows up to 12 but I just wanted to get rid of them. I decided to go to Saturday school with my friend. On the Friday before the day of my Saturday school, I saw him sitting on the ground possibly copying homework from his friend and I walked pass by him with my friend and spoke pretty loudly saying that I am going to Saturday school tomorrow. On the day of Saturday school, lo and behold, he was there along with me and actually sat right by me. You would probably assume he was there because he actually needed it, he does ditch a lot, but I checked the list, which listed everyone who needed Saturday school and how many truancies they have and he was definitely not on it. You could reason that he was there for his friends but after Saturday school ended, I saw him waiting outside for possibly his parents all by himself. Pathetic how ridiculous observant I am. I know.

To be frank, I really did expect him to talk to me on graduation day. I really did. Well, he didn’t. We then had an all night graduation event until 5am where we could not leave early. Again I truly expected him to speak to me. Well he didn’t… I am genuinely crushed over this. You probably ask why I like him when I never talk to him. All I can really give you is a clichéd answer. I have always felt a connection to him, since freshman year, ever since I heard his name. I didn’t develop a mild crush on him until end of sophomore year and it didn’t become serious until senior year, but he always stood out to me. I just admire his confidence and charisma. I want to get to know him, I want to talk to him, and I want to be with him. I really do. I really want to confess to him since he didn’t to me. Even if it is not true that he has feelings for me, I want an answer. I’m tired of having this little fantasy of me and him together. I need an answer. I figured that it’ll be OK for me to approach him because I am leaving for a college that’s about 8 hours away from my home and high school is over and if he did reject me, I can simply move on. The thing is I don’t really know how to approach him. I never talked to him. I don’t own a Facebook. My friend has him added on Facebook. What can I do really? Should I even do it? Please help.

Is there any point-as you are moving away?

I would leave it be.

You can't help your heart, but you will break his if you move.

You can't help your heart, but you will break his if you move.

Really?

Based on what facts??

So your saying to me that you would get with a guy, date him, than move? Shows how much you would care for his feelings,

Read her post-they're not even speaking to each other,never mind dating.

The OP herself refers to it as being tired of ''this little fantasy''.

No, but she wants to. And if she is moving and got with him, than theirs no point. His heart would just be broken?

I expected this guy to tell me he liked me but he didn't and now high school is officially over for us both. This is the silly part. We have NEVER had a conversation with each other. We are also possibly complete opposites. He's very popular and confident and if you ever saw him, you would probably stereotype him as the “bad boy.� He had a couple girlfriends before and he has a reputation for partying. I'm not exactly socially awkward or unpopular. I'm not exactly your standard beauty. I dress well but I'm kind of short and chubby. I do not party, drink, or do drugs. I work very hard in school and I take fairly challenging courses. We only had classes together freshman and sophomore year where I shared a couple of honors classes with him. We have an entirely different group of friends. Why do I think he likes me? I know I am going to sound silly but basically, he just stares at me. A lot, intensely, ever since freshman year. You can literally see his eyes looking up and down at me. We haven't had a class together since sophomore year but in senior year, our classes were right across from each other. We both had teachers who pretty much allowed us to wonder around a lot. He always walks over to my class and peers into the window where we frequently made eye contact. And whenever I leave my classroom to run an errand, about 5 seconds later he would come out of his own classroom and start walking across towards me and well, he just… stands there looking towards my direction.
To be frank, I really did expect him to talk to me on graduation day. Well, he didn't. We then had an all night graduation event until 5am. Again I truly expected him to speak to me. He didn't. I am genuinely crushed over this. You probably ask why I like him when I never talk to him. All I can really give you is a clichéd answer. I have always felt a connection to him, since freshman year, ever since I heard his name. I developed a mild crush on him in 10th grade and it became serious in senior. I just admire his confidence and charisma and I can't like anyone else. I'm also afraid that no one will ever look at me the way he does. I really want to confess to him. Even if it is not true that he has feelings for me, I want an answer. I'm tired of having this little fantasy of me and him together. I figured that it'll be okay for me to approach him because high school is over and I can just simply move on when I go off to college. The thing is I don't really know how to confess to him. I never talked to him. We're just way too different. I don't own a Facebook. It would be creepy if I knew his number. My friend has him added on Facebook. What can I do really? Should I even do it? What is your opinion on his feelings for me?

Try reading this sticky: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/shy-people-582104.html

Since you haven't spoken to him before, I suggest you ask your mutual friend to arrange a get-together just so that you guys can hang out together in a group. It's probably not a good idea to confess your feelings to someone whom you barely know.

After you hang out together, you can get each other's contact information and then keep in touch that way. Then you can decide whether you want to confess your feelings.

I expected this guy to tell me he liked me but he didn't and now high school is officially over for us both. This is the silly part. We have NEVER had a conversation with each other. We are also possibly complete opposites. He's very popular and confident and if you ever saw him, you would probably stereotype him as the "bad boy" He had a couple girlfriends before (he is not a player though) and he has a reputation for partying. I'm not exactly socially awkward or unpopular. I'm not exactly your standard beauty. I dress well but I'm kind of short and chubby. I do not party, drink, or do drugs. I work very hard in school and I take fairly challenging courses. We only had classes together freshman and sophomore year where I shared a couple of honors classes with him. We have an entirely different group of friends. Why do I think he likes me? I know I am going to sound silly but basically, he just stares at me. A lot, intensely, ever since freshman year. You can literally see his eyes looking up and down at me. We haven't had a class together since sophomore year but in senior year, our classes were right across from each other. We both had teachers who pretty much allowed us to wonder around a lot. He always walks over to my class and peers into the window where we frequently made eye contact. And whenever I leave my classroom to run an errand, about 5 seconds later he would come out of his own classroom and start walking across towards me and well, he just stands there looking towards my direction. When he's within my sight but he doesn't notice me, he is very "thuggish" or rowdy with his friends but when he does notice my presence, he becomes very reserved and toned down.

To be frank, I really did expect him to talk to me on graduation day. Well, he didn't. We then had an all night graduation event until 5am. Again I truly expected him to speak to me. He didn't. I am genuinely crushed over this. You probably ask why I like him when I never talk to him. All I can really give you is a clichéd answer. I have always felt a connection to him, since freshman year, ever since I heard his name. I developed a mild crush on him in 10th grade and it became serious in senior. I just admire his confidence and charisma and I can't like anyone else. I'm also afraid that no one will ever look at me the way he does. I really want to confess to him. Even if it is not true that he has feelings for me, I want an answer. I'm tired of having this little fantasy of me and him together. I figured that it'll be okay for me to approach him because high school is over and I can just simply move on when I go off to college if he rejects me. The thing is I don't really know how to confess to him. I never talked to him. We're just way too different. I don't own a Facebook. It would be creepy if I knew his number. My friend has him added on Facebook. What can I do really? Should I even do it? What is your opinion on his feelings for me?

If you feel a connection, and you have known him a long time, why don't you take the bull by the horns and ask him for a soda or coffee? Get the ball rolling so you really know where you stand with him. Why are waiting for him to talk to you? Maybe he is waiting for you to talk to him?

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One idea is to create an account in FB (make sure you hide your friends list, because you don't want it to be empty and he might guess) and add him up. Say a hi, and befriend him first. Then you can arrange a meet up for a coffee etc. Talk to him first, time is running out.