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Scaredhurt
Jun 13, 2011, 04:59 PM
Me an my Child's father has broken up he cheated on me an I tried to tlk to him an mke it work he told me yes he wanted to be with me but the next day he wuldnt reply to my phone calls or txt. An I miss him so much we hve been together for 7 yrs an I can't get over him.

Jake2008
Jun 13, 2011, 06:15 PM
If you can't trust his word, his behaviour, his actions, or his promises, what have you got.

He doesn't sound like good boyfriend material, let alone father material, or husband material. You already know he is, in addition to everything else, a cheater. Clearly he is not willing to walk the walk to repair or work on a relationship with you.

My advice to you is learn to rely on yourself, without the dream of having a steady partner in your life. Do what you have to do to make your own way under your own steam, and make the best decisions you can for your future, and your child's future. Without him. Only when you are independent all the way around, and don't need a man such as this in your life, I think, you will eventually be much happier.

I hope that you have established child support.

Alty
Jun 13, 2011, 06:33 PM
Me an my Childs father has broken up he cheated on me an I tried to tlk to him an mke it work he told me yes he wanted to be with me but the next day he wuldnt reply to my phone calls or txt. An I miss him so much we hve been together for 7 yrs an I can't get over him.

I have to ask. Why do you miss him? He cheated on you, he's not responding to you, he treats you like you don't matter.

What's to miss?

Personally I'd be glad to get rid of him.

Scaredhurt
Jun 13, 2011, 06:41 PM
I know but we hve been together 4so long an I've gotten comfortable with him an the girl he cheated on me with he know she don't like me . He only apologized to me 1time because he say I suldnt hve came to his house looking 4stuff. But I feel like if we are together why can't I come over an why was she there anyway. But it's a cycle with him he break up with me an when he *** bck I always tke him back. Bc I love him an think he changed like he say he has. It's hard to let go of what your use to.

Alty
Jun 13, 2011, 06:47 PM
It is hard to let go of what you're used to, but that doesn't mean it's good for you.

Smoking is very bad for you, but there are people, myself included, that are addicted to smoking. The difference between you and me, I know that smoking is bad for me. You don't seem to know that your ex is bad for you.

When will you realize that you can do better? When will you realize that change is good. Just because you're used to being treated like crap doesn't mean you should live your life being treated like crap.

Don't you deserve better?

Scaredhurt
Jun 13, 2011, 06:53 PM
I want my son to hve his father an I want a family he mkes me happy. But when he do things like this it hurt me an now that he hasn't text me or called is making it worse because he ack as of he don't care but he tell me he love me an my son an want us to work out an be happy. An I want the same thing I'm tired of crying an being upset I want to call him an text him how I feel but. I know he not going to reply

Alty
Jun 13, 2011, 06:58 PM
I want my son to hve his father

Your son can have a father without you being a part of the fathers life.


I want a family he mkes me happy.

Happy? Cheating on you makes you happy? Not responding to you makes you happy? If you're so happy then why are you here?


But when he do things like this it hurt me an now that he hasn't text me or called is making it worse because he ack as of he don't care but he tell me he love me an my son an want us to work out an be happy.

It sounds like he says a lot of things he doesn't mean. He hurts you, but says he loves you. You don't hurt the ones you love. He says he wants to make it work, but he cheats on you, and doesn't call your or communicate with you. Does he support his son? Does he see his son?


I'm tired of crying an being upset I want to call him an text him how I feel but. I know he not going to reply

Wait... you're crying because you're upset? I thought he made you happy? Where's the happy? I don't see the happy.

Scaredhurt
Jun 13, 2011, 07:13 PM
He see his son 2days out a week because I Rly don't want him over there, I drop him off Sn pick him up but he send his mother outside to give him to me I guess he don't want to see me. An his mom call me if she want to see her grandson 4a few hrs . An she get mad when I won't let him stay the night an I won't because he don't care or do nuthin 4him his mom tell me not to tke it out on her an I don't feel like I am I'm juss angry