Hey :) I'm a 13 yr old girl! I'm new to this site but here goes my story!

Kay well I don't like that I'm shy around basically everyone! Even my closest friends! Like I don't know why I'm like that! I don't really talk I'm mostly the listener in the group! Im shy around both the opposite and same sex! Idk how to approach girls cause some girls are kind of mean and snobby and think everything is about them. Plus I don't want to take a chance to try and meet that person cause Im afraid of them being rude to me or using me. I'm shy to approach guys cause guys are mean to me and say stuff about me behind my back but it seems like they can have respect for everyone else except me!

I think the reason that I'm shy is because I'm so concerned about what people think about me and because I have low self asteem and don't have confidence in myself! Like I always put myself down and compare myself to other girls and stuff like that! Also Im paranoid like I always think someone is talking about me when their not! Plus I always think negative but like I act negative at home not at schoo! Idk why I'm like that! That just me! So I was wondering how I can stop being so paranoid, shy and paranoid around people and be outgoing! Hope y'all can help me out! Thanks :)

I know exactly how you feel. Only I'm a guy. But the only way to come out of your shell is to find someone, that doesn't make fun of you and you can tell anything to. And I know that's definitely harder said than done but believe me there is always a person like thatlike that. When I was your age I found that person, and

Well it's kind of hard just putting yourself out their. It's worse not knowing how their reaction is going to be towards you. You know what I mean?

I know exactly how you feel. Only I'm a guy. Ans since you've said that you have friends, all you need to do is find the one you are closest with and tell them anything and everything. So long as they listen and don't tll anyone what you've told them. And yes I know that sounds easier than it is but there's always that person somewhere.

Learned this from experience

Good luck

Sorry I accidentally hit the answer button before I was done

Thanks! :)

I know that feeling, but the best thing anyone has ever said to me is, just be yourself and if they don't like it, it's there loss, and never change who you are for anyone. You are who you are, be proud of that :)

But I can be proud with myself if I'm always shy and don't have confidence plus is negative.. like I'm being rite now! Sorry but like I hate being shy cause being shy just let's people walk over me and like I've gone through that all my life. And people treating me different @ school and with my family like mr not speaking up. But thanks for the help! I'll take that advice to mind :D

I meant can't

My girlfriend does that a lot, you always put yourself down compare yourself to to others and don't like talking to new people, but look at what your doing, your talking to me and you don't know me, I know it's not quite the same but you can do it, just don't think about what people "might" think, you are who you are, if people don't like you for being you then there not worth it :Dx

Hey ,the best thing you can do is "stop worrying what other people think of you and only care about youre own opinion of yourself" life is short and one day you'll wake up and you'll be 45 or 80 yrs old and will think "hey, ive spent my whole life just worrying what other humans on the plant think of me ,what a waste of a life". So, also watch a movie called "the secret" and that will also help you, much love and happiness xxx oh and don't allow another humanbeing to disrespect or degrade you , keep your head up high at all times. Treat yourself like a queen and if one friendship doesn't work out ,don't kick yourself ,let it go ,there's billions of other friendships to be made as the planet has billions of different types of people. Xx