View Full Version : I've been with my girl for 2 years and now we just had a baby girl 7 months ago
jdub101509
Jun 11, 2011, 04:57 PM
I've been with my girl for 2 years now and we just had a baby girl 7 months ago I had a drinking problem an things really got out of hand. We fought a lot an really verbaly abused each other. But we have truly made each others lives better since we met. But now she broke up with me but she says she just needs time and space an she is dinking more than ever always partying with friends I love her more than anyone in my life an I really want to save our family I just don know what to do
talaniman
Jun 11, 2011, 05:37 PM
Give her time and space and be a good dad. You can't control another, not even a baby mama. But you can love and protect your child. Even if you aren't a family.
What are the arguments about. Are they alcohol related? If they are get help, whether she does or not.
greatstudent
Jun 21, 2011, 07:05 PM
Try to find a common ground between you two. Try not to drink though! Since you have a 7 month old child, it is very unhealthy if you both drink a lot or both have a drinking problem. I know that it will be difficult to stop drinking, but remember that it is for your child. Tell the baby's mom the same thing I am telling you now. If you two really care about your baby then you would do anything to protect her. Okay? Think about your baby girl.
HurtScorpio
Jul 5, 2011, 06:37 PM
You both have drinking problems admittedly. Go straight to AA and get on your way to getting sober for that poor baby's sake. If she won't do anything about it, then another family member can hopefully care for the baby while she gets help. Give her the space she needs and 2 alcoholics who are not sober together is just chaos. You and her really need to get help. Insurances usually only cover 3o days of rehab and that is not enough time. Go to as many Alcoholic Anonymous meetings in your area as you can to get the support you need to stay sober and get a sponsor to check in with when you have urges to drink. Pray that you and she can remain sober - stay away from any of your friends that drink,cut ties with any places that you go to that have alcohol - stay away from the people ,places, and things that give you the urge and stay busy to keep your mind off the urges. If not, you could lose that baby to the county who would put it in a foster home and they are sometimes horrible. Please take action now and ask your family,if available and hers for help.