Ok so to begin this my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now. Our relationship has been great but, now this year everything changed. This girl started to talk to my boyfriend in the beginning of the school year and she even tried to break us up. I barely even knew her and she would say rude things about me but my boyfriend never stood up for me. He would talk to her for 5 hours a day and whenever I tried to talk to him he wouldn't answer for like 3 hours.

During this time I tried talking to him about this ( for some reason we don't talk about our problems in person I don't know why though) but he would ignore most of my questions I asked him. I began to felt depressed and stressed. I don't really think he thought how I felt but this continued for like 3 months talking to this girl non stop for 5 hours a day.

One day I decided to just ignore him and give him a taste of his own medicine. I didn't talk to a guy or anything like that but I just wouldn't respond to his text messages. Well that actually worked once I began to stop talking to him he stopped talking to her. They do still talk but not as much. But now I feel like our relationship has gone down hill because of this. We used to be so close and now I feel like he only likes me as a friend. We used to kiss and stuff but it has been like 5 weeks since the last time we have kissed. Also he can't go 10 seconds without letting go of my hands.

Now since summer began all he does is hug me. He will never say I love you in person just over text and he barely says that. Like sometimes I feel like I want to be with him and a lot of times I don't. I know we will still be friends if we did break up but I don't know if it will be akward or not. Although he does make me laugh a lot he just doesn't satisfy my emotional needs.

Should I break it or should I keep it. Also by the way he talked to this girl over xbox live.

I think you know what you have to do, you're just not 100% sure its right, bbut it is. You must end it, I think this relationship has run its course. End it now before you end up enemies.

You have handled that situation pretty good by giving him a taste of his medicine. It would be better to talk to him once in detail, and ask him why he is behaving so. Or have you tried it already?
If he is not able to define anything clearly, would u mind giving him some time to think? Even after that, is he is not able to define, may be we don't see a bright future ahead.

No honest communications, then you don't have a relationship. How old are you both?

I'm 18 he is 17

When talking doesn't bring the changes you want over time, then leave. When you have had enough of his crap, you will leave.

I have been wanting to break up with him for awhile now but I haven't built the courage to tell him.

When you are tired enough of his crap, then you will find the courage to leave. No doubt about that.

Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and it has been a good relationship but I'm getting the feeling like he doesn't love me anymore. We don't kiss or hold hands etc. All he does is hug me whenever I leave. He treats me like a friend. We have normal conversations and we have fun together but he doesn't show any affection towards me. He doesn't say I love you only in texts. Sometimes I see other couples and I think I want their relationship. It just gets me wondering if he still loves me or if it is fading away. I have talked to him a couple times about this like awhile back ago but he doesn't change. We haven't kissed in over a month now. I'm just worried that he won't because I'm always the one to do things first and I'm tired of it. I just want to know if this will work out and I just want some advise on this.

This is the guy you ''wanted to break up for quite a while'',right?

Why are you still there?

And what happened with the other girl?

Do you have any proof of him being an introvert? There are some introverts who behave this way throughout the relationship. About the text messages, it's OK that you still get the reassurance of love at least in writing. Women say I love you all the time, but men prefer to do it in quality not in quantity. I don't get the feeling he doesn't love you, but I also need more specifics. What I see here is a relationship that has reached the stage of comfortability. I am not saying you should settle for this if you want a different approach on your love life, I am just saying that it doesn't sound unfixable, at least from this post.
I would definitely talk to him about the kissing and hugging part and tell him what I expect, though. You never know, maybe he'll approach your couple issues differently in time.

Ok so I'm having a problem. So my boyfriend does not give me any affection(kissing, holding hands, hugging etc.). I get kind of lonely at night thinking about it, and I don't know if I should confront him how I feel.

I have before like a long time ago, and he says he is shy, but we have been together for a long time now, and I don't think he should say that he is shy for an excuse anymore.

We don't even act like a couple, we act like friends. My old boyfriend gave me too much affection, and now this boyfriend doesn't give me any. Idk if I should ask him again, because it has been like 2 years since I have asked him, or should I just tell him it's not working out?



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This is the same boyfriend you don't have the courage to break up with? Heck you have been with the guy for 4 years since you were 14. Maybe you both need a change of scenery. And how many more ways are you going to ask this question? No need to start another one as again your threads have been merged.

Its seems after 4 years you have not developed enough communications to make changes, but if it's a lack of affection, why haven't you taken the lead with the hand holding, cuddling, and kissing?

So, if your boyfriend asks you to homecoming shouldn't he pay for dinner and the ticket.

That's how it was when I went to school.

Yeah like I pay for everything for him and he doesn't pay one cent. Like for vslentines day he just got me a necklace at Walmart for 5 dollars. I took him out for dinner gave him a pic of the both of us. And last homecoming I made a smerky little comment to my friend saying aw that's so sweet of your boyfriend to pay for your meal, but he never steps up his game. I thought it was that way too, but his mom never gives him a lot of money and he never offers anything.

Had enough of this yet??

I know lol I'm stupid, but I mean if this doesn't work out how I plan it does after homecoming then I'm going to call it quits. Idk I just don't really have the courage even though its breaking me inside, I just don't want to hurt his feelings

Forget his feelings and worry about yours. You can't go through life worrying about everyone except for yourself.

True it's just hard for me because this is actually a 1st relationship that has lasted along time for me and I'm just afraid to lose that I guess. Because all the relationships I have had were pretty ****ed up and I have trust issues now from it. I know I should have broken up with him awhile back ago, but I wanted to see if he would change I guess.

He won't. People don't change unless something major happens in their life. He may want to change but will probably resort back to how he is now. From what I've read here, you're really better off without him and need to stop concerning yourself with his feelings.

Yeah I just needed a wake- up call or a reality check because if I even tried to make it work still he will just keep on hurting me. I mean we were really close friends before we dated and I still want to be his friend, but it is for the better If we called it a quits.

You are right. Everything you have said about him really makes it seem like he's not for you.

Good luck.

Thanks for helping me out

Any time. I hope things work out for you.