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Lovestruck7
Jun 8, 2011, 03:26 PM
Ok so me and my boyfriend were together for two years, you can imagine what kind of bond, trust, and companionship we shared. We came to a time where we just kept arguing.

Unfortantly that resulted in breaking up. When we spilt we both did the whole no contact thing! It was great we had no contact and I found it really easy to try n get over him, but I still missed him. Well I ended up seeing him out after a month of not speaking or seeing (imagine how hard this was)! We ended up totally falling for each other at sight, and spent the night together, so all of the month of no contact was thrown out the window.

We both had no intention of getting back together, so we carried on having no strings attached sex. It was great but I think I fell back in love deeper than before. He started getting secretive, and not replying to my texts, we spent our last night together a week ago. And he text me the next day saying this is too much for him and he doesn't want to see me again!

I was and still am heartbroken, I never realized how much I love him and now I'm left lonely. Not only that I have made the mistake of texting him soppy things and no reply what so ever.

How can some one be so cold?

talaniman
Jun 8, 2011, 08:47 PM
You opened up a not yet healed wound with the sex part for sure, and probably thought there was still some hope until he dashed them to pieces finally.

You live and learn, and its back to NC, and starting over with the healing process.

Sorry you learned the hard way, but NSA sex can really stir up old feelings of bonding, and attachment, especially after a month when you THOUGHT you were over him, but wasn't. And its easy to assume because you have feelings, an ex partner has the same feelings.

Sorry for your loss,

BK201
Jun 8, 2011, 10:48 PM
People can be so cold sometimes to get the things what they want. And he got what he wanted, and didn't say anything until you started throwing the love string towards him again. Obvious he would be back to you if you say OK to carry the no strings attached sex. But that's not what you want, right? Time will heal you. Only time can. Have to be strong. What are you going to do now?

amicon
Jun 8, 2011, 11:52 PM
No contact,restart the healing process and move on with your life.

Sex with an ex-not a good idea!!

kalistared
Jun 9, 2011, 08:36 PM
Well what I would do is do the same thing to him. Technically if he actually never wanted to see you again he wouldn't do it like that. I suppose if you guys never see each other again or he never talks to you ever he probably isn't into you anymore. So girl I've done this a million times with a guy like that he's not worth it. Just get over him then you'll feel better.