I spoinled my son all of his life, he became jeleous when I got pregnant with my daughter since he was 12 and now almost 17 he verbally abuses and has raised his hand to me. What do I do?

He won't understand what mistake he is doing if you try to talk to him. It will just pressurize him and get him agitated. If there is a person whom he talks with freely, that person would be the best choice to make him realize what he is doing. Please do not encourage him when he raises his hand against you. Avoid advising him at all cost. Do you know what kind of friends he have?

Talk to him, pick a punishment and stick to it; call the Police and have him arrested; go to the Court, have him declared out of control and place him in the custody of the State; take him for counselling; go for counselling with him.

Have him arrested

He wont understand what mistake he is doing if you try to talk to him. It will just pressurize him and get him agitated. If there is a person whom he talks with freely, that person would be the best choice to make him realize what he is doing. Please do not encourage him when he raises his hand against you. Avoid advising him at all cost. Do you know what kind of friends he have?


What? Don't talk to him because he won't understand? This under age child is raising his hand to his mother and your advice is not to talk to him about it?

Don't encourage him when he raises a hand? You are saying the mother shouldn't tell him it's a good idea to raise his hand to her? Again - what?

I am very close to giving you a reddie - I cannot imagine what you are thinking.

He is not a Kid. It is a critical age. Punish him? What is he a 12 year old kid whom you can punish? Have him arrested? I dono if you would do that to your kid. But I left it up to dm1979 to decide. Don't encourage him = stop him from doing such things. I leave it up to dm1979 to give a red or green, I don't bother what you think. Please keep in mind that everyone has their own opinion.

My child lays a hand on me and, yes, I call the Police. Yes, you can discipline and perhaps even punish a 17 year old. I've been known to suspend privileges.

I work in the Court system. If at some point parents would take a stand, be less permissive, children would feel they were somewhat less entitled. As you said, everyone has an opinon. That's my EDUCATED opinion on raising children who attempt to hit their parents.

At what age do you think children can begin to raise and parent themselves. At what age is it appropriate for a child to get physical with a parent?

Not encouraging someone does NOT discourage someone.

I know you don't bother what I think - or what anyone else thinks, for that matter.