twansg
Jun 4, 2011, 05:31 AM
For the last year, I've been seeing a guy that I care deeply about, and he acknowledges that he cares for me also. The primary reason that we aren't in a committed relationship is because he is dissatisfied with his financial position. So, we date on occasion, but there is no intimacy involved (I stopped because of the lack of committment).
Over the last few months I have gotten frustrated by the lack of a real commitment and went out on a few dates with others, but none of them really led to anything beyond the one date. In early May, the communication between my guy and I really took a nosedive, mostly because he was did not get a better paying job that he really wanted, and his mood reflected his disappointment. This went on for two weeks. One week ago, I left the country for vacation and he informed me that he met someone and that he may go on a date with her. He says that they've been talking periodically for about two weeks or so. During this conversation he kept making comments about me seeing someone, that I had erased him out of his life, etc (all which I thought was odd). He called me a few times when I was on vacation, and when I got back from vacation, he told me that he did go on a date with the young lady. I was hurt and surprised because I thought he was just telling me about this lady to make me jealous, not that he would actually go out with her.
He had a nice time on the date, but that they didn't have any immediate plans to see each other a second time. She lives out of state by the way. Also, he has told her that he is not in a financial position to date her and that he has someone who cares about him and that he cares about also (me).
Anyway, the next day, we had a pretty open conversation and he said that he told his friend that he should have been on vacation with me, but his money wasn't right and he also said that part of the reason that he went out with the lady was that she approached him, that it was flattering. He also said that he thought that I had moved on to look for someone better out there. I was really surprised he admitted that. He also said that he isn't dating this lady because he isn't necessarily trying to pursue a serious relationship with her, and he also isn't saying that he won't see her again.
I guess my question is, now that I've reassured him that I am still interested in him despite his financial woes, is it likely that we will be able to resume our relationship? I couldn't understand why he would tell me about this woman, is it likely that he did tell me in order to gauge my reaction and level of interest? Okay so now that he knows that I never had intentions of looking for someone else, now what? I am concerned about him continuing to see this other woman and possibly developing more than a friendship with her.
Over the last few months I have gotten frustrated by the lack of a real commitment and went out on a few dates with others, but none of them really led to anything beyond the one date. In early May, the communication between my guy and I really took a nosedive, mostly because he was did not get a better paying job that he really wanted, and his mood reflected his disappointment. This went on for two weeks. One week ago, I left the country for vacation and he informed me that he met someone and that he may go on a date with her. He says that they've been talking periodically for about two weeks or so. During this conversation he kept making comments about me seeing someone, that I had erased him out of his life, etc (all which I thought was odd). He called me a few times when I was on vacation, and when I got back from vacation, he told me that he did go on a date with the young lady. I was hurt and surprised because I thought he was just telling me about this lady to make me jealous, not that he would actually go out with her.
He had a nice time on the date, but that they didn't have any immediate plans to see each other a second time. She lives out of state by the way. Also, he has told her that he is not in a financial position to date her and that he has someone who cares about him and that he cares about also (me).
Anyway, the next day, we had a pretty open conversation and he said that he told his friend that he should have been on vacation with me, but his money wasn't right and he also said that part of the reason that he went out with the lady was that she approached him, that it was flattering. He also said that he thought that I had moved on to look for someone better out there. I was really surprised he admitted that. He also said that he isn't dating this lady because he isn't necessarily trying to pursue a serious relationship with her, and he also isn't saying that he won't see her again.
I guess my question is, now that I've reassured him that I am still interested in him despite his financial woes, is it likely that we will be able to resume our relationship? I couldn't understand why he would tell me about this woman, is it likely that he did tell me in order to gauge my reaction and level of interest? Okay so now that he knows that I never had intentions of looking for someone else, now what? I am concerned about him continuing to see this other woman and possibly developing more than a friendship with her.