Ok to start I have known my boyfriend for 10 yrs we had a problam about me finding out he lied to my about sleeping with his ex so we split up for 5yrs in that 5yrs I had slept with 6 other males... and we got back together and have been together now for 4 1/2 yrs.. He throws in my face all the time about my past and says I did him wrong but I feel I did not do him wrong I told him it was over can I help him get over this or will he ever

Tough to say sounds like he's lost trust in you and can't get over your past actions. You should sit down and say that if you can't let the past go how do you expect to have a promising future. You should also bring up the fact that you two are together now and it shouldn't matter what happened before. If he can't get over the fact of what happened when you two weren't even together then that's on him.

I would say he's a complete moron, and to move on. If a person blames you for your 'past' so much to the point they use it as amo in an argument, they aren't worth your time. You are not at fault here, and he's just upset that he made the mistake originally. I'd say give it one last SOLID attempt, and if that doesn't work -end the relationship.

Time to dump him-you were not together so his accusations are completely out of order.

Time to move on-you can't change him,but you can change the way you respect yourself by leaving him.

Its one thing to go back to a lying cheating idiot, but the question really is why you stay with him if he is still an idiot after 4 and a half years?

Doesn't seem like he has changed much in 10 years, so what makes you think he will now? And why do you allow him to treat you that way in the first place. Stop explaining yourself, he knows it hurts you, and you will be defensive.

What can you be thinking?