Hi, well I have been with my girlfriend for 9 nine years we have a 8 year old son. She has never worked or, even tried to find a job! I have kept us financially since we've been together. I currently have 2 jobs and spend most of my time working to make ends meet while she sits at home, or with her friends doing nothing but smoking all day.

When we're broke she moans, but still refuses to look for work! I don't smoke but she expects me to fund her habit. I have put up with this for years because we have a kid but, how much can someone take before enough is enough?

The other thing is she never attempts to show me any affection outside, or inside the bedroom, although I used to try all the time I have now given up. She never wants sex, and constantly pushes me away! She is so lazy she hates walking anywhere and moans when I don't take her in the car, even when it is only a five minute walk! I work long hours and don't get much sleep to try and fit everything in while she does nothing.

I can't take it any more!! I just want her to get some motivation, and ambition to do something with her life!

IS THERE ANY HOPE??


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You could try talking, and see if that brings the changes you want, or you can leave, and pay child support, and get court ordered visitation. Or quite one job and be broke all the time like the rest of us, or tell her to get her own cigarettes, or ALL the above.

Whatever you do drop the chat/text if you expect some solid advice.

Has she seen a doctor to rule out depression?

If she is unwell she needs treaatment;if she's one of those
Emotional and financial vampires who expect everybody else to cater to their needs-see a solicitor and get the separation process going.