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ohdanggurrl
Jun 2, 2011, 01:04 PM
hey, so yeah, so there's this guy I've been so head over heels for. I've known him for about 2 or 3 years now. We started as friends&i never really saw myself getting or falling in love with him but as time went on I noticed how much he meant to me&what made him stand out. Before I knew it I was in love with him. He was so different from how the other guys treated me. He was so sweet, so kind&so gentle. He was so considerate of others around him&he was so friendly. He would listen to my problems&would try to cheer me up.

but the thing was that he had a girlfriend at the time. So I couldn't really do anything about it. I didn't want him to know I was in love with him until him&his girlfriend broke up but I guess my best friend couldn't wait at all. So she told him. &i guess it was because of her we got together in the end. But as I was saying. So she told him&he never really acted different&i felt weird though you know.

so I texted him this one day during class saying, "so lauren told you i liked you huh ?" &he replied saying yes. &idk after that things were back to normal. But I was feeling so blahh. As time went by I got closer to him&i was giving him like sort of hints that I wanted to get together&i had to remind him from time to time that I did like him. I knew what I was doing was wrong but him&his girlfriend acted as if they weren't even going out.

they wouldn't talk to each other during class or gold hands or any of that&most people thought me&him were going out. I knew I shouldn't have done any of that but my feelings were getting the best of me. So yeah. &then a couple of weeks later him&his girlfriend had broken up. Oh god I was so happy. &they didn't break up because of me, it was because of someone telling her that he had cheated on her&yeahh.

so then a couple of days or weeks went by & this one day during my p.e class my friends&him were talking but I was hanging with my other friend. &so I guess the guy told my friends that he did like me a lot. &so my friends had told me after p.e&i went up to him. &i said, "so ariana told me that you did really like me too. " he said , "yeah i do. " &i replied, "then why the hell are we still friends. " &he said something about if we do go out it won't be for too long cos he was going to Oregon for the summer&he hated doing long distance relationships or somethingg. &i was mad, I mean he was only going for the summer you know ?

&so I just walked away. &so in english class, which I had with him also. I wrote a note to him saying sorry, lets give us a try okay ? &he replied saying for sure(= . &yeah. He was everything to me. He meant the whole entire world to me. I loved him so muchh. He was my first everything, my first kiss, my first love, my first "i love you" my first everything. Yeah we had our ups&downs but I loved him&i still do till this day.

as time went on, it became summer break. It was a Saturday, the day after our last day of school. I was up in stockton for a family gathering. We were argueing, well we argued the day before too but yeah. I was argueing with him through text messages&i forgot what we were fighting about. All I remember is him saying, "i think we should take a break untill school starts again&we can give us another try okay ? im sorry, i still love you." I swear I did not know whether to be sad that he broke up with me or be angry&disappointed that he did it over text messaging. I had to go into the bathroom&cry. I coulndt let everyone see my cry.

I felt so horrible. &turns out he didn't even get to go to Oregon. He stayed. &he didn't even tell me. So I guess we're still friends. But I still love him. I want him back. I can't move on. I want to but I cant. I still cry about all of this. It still hurts. &he doesn't even know. He doesn't know how much this is hurting me. He doesn't know that I still cry about it even. &to think it was only a few weeks ago. It feels like its been months. I miss him. I can't help but still text him . He still only sees me as a friend.

I ask him does he still love me. He says I'm not sure anymore. Why can't I move on ? What can I do to help mr forget him. I miss him, I love him, but I hate him&want to move on. I don't want to hurt anymore. I don't want to feel this pain anymore. My heart still hurts. I'm tired of crying. What can I do ?

amicon
Jun 3, 2011, 04:54 AM
You should stop getting in touch with him and start doing your own thing.

By having no contact with him you'll heal from the break up much more quickly.

hikaru22
Jun 3, 2011, 06:55 PM
You sure stop talking with him for alitter bit.and hug out with other friends. They will help you feel better. Then affeter a bit talk to him agine and see if you feel better then and if you don't then you needed to litter longer break. Affert this you sure feel bitter.

ohdanggurrl
Jun 3, 2011, 07:29 PM
yeah, as of right now I'm trying to do my own thing, I deleted him from my phone from my Facebook etc. I'm trying to avoid having the urge to text him&having my friends talk to him for me too. But thanks (=

ohdanggurrl
Jun 3, 2011, 07:30 PM
yeahh, I'm going to try&do my own thing as of right now. No, I'm not planning to talk to him. If he wants us to talk, he can come&talk to me. Cos' I'm done doing everything first. So yeah, but thanks (=

amicon
Jun 4, 2011, 01:30 AM
Keep busy,stay no contact and you'll be fine.

Good luck.