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karenranu
May 30, 2011, 01:34 PM
Hi I'm with a married man... his five years older than me, his very cute and I really like him. It all startd from when he came to my house to fix the meter, he told me to get some fuses and plain panals, he wrote them down on a paper and he wrote his mobile number dwn aswel... after a couple of days I txted him asking when is he coming to fix them again and from there the text messaqes started.. he asked my name, how old I am.. I asked him if he was married he said "if i am would you leave me"? I said "no". He told me the truth and said yes... we planned to meet, we chatted and came close and kissed, he wanted me to go on the back seat I said no... I think he wanted to have sex with me but I didn't let him... then we kept on meeting... after meeting 10 times I finally had sex with him... He says his always busy at work and I don't no what to do... do I beliv him or not? Every time I text him he never txtes me back... then after a couple of days he phones me to meet him then when I meet him I end up having sex with... this has happened 5 times now... and I don't know what to do seriously... shall I leave and get on with his married life... or shall I still be with his.. please help... I need some advice

Cat1864
May 30, 2011, 02:55 PM
Karen, you should never have started a relationship with him. He is not yours and you are only hurting yourself and his family.

Let him go and spend some time healing. Figure out why you said you wouldn't 'leave him' if he said he was married and why you started having an affair with him. Look at what you need to work on in yourself so that you don't continue this self destructive behavior.

When are ready you will find a man who will be yours and no one else's. A man who won't be using you as a toy or substitute.

Take care of yourself and good luck.

praveentalla
May 31, 2011, 02:47 AM
Hey he is just cheating you even the truth that he is married. So better not to meet him again. He is a man and more over he is married he dos't get any problem the one who is going to face the circumstances. So its not late just come out and live your life.

QLP
Jun 2, 2011, 01:06 AM
There is nothing that suggests that he wants anything from you other than sex on the side from what you have written. It doesn't even sound like he has misled you on this, he has admitted to being married.

Have some respect for yourself, his wife and his family. Clearly, he doesn't.

talaniman
Jun 5, 2011, 12:28 PM
What the heck could you be thinking, of course you kick him out of your life and move on with yours! DUHHHHH!

Fr_Chuck
Jun 5, 2011, 12:49 PM
Invite his wife over to join the fun, I am sure he will be surprised.

So you are OK with someone to just have sex with every once in a while ? I hope at least what ever meter he fixed, he is getting it free for you, since the hookers on the street at least get paid.

amicon
Jun 6, 2011, 01:55 AM
He's married-have nothing more to do with him.

karenranu
Jun 6, 2011, 11:06 AM
All these questions have helped me a lot.. he txted me toda and I have actually blocked his number!! :-D
Thank you for all those who replyed to my question...

Cat1864
Jun 6, 2011, 11:15 AM
I am glad you found the strength to block his call. Keep doing what you know is best for you and any hurt will fade as you heal and move on.

Remember that we are still here if you need more advice or encouragment to take care of yourself.

Good luck.

amicon
Jun 6, 2011, 11:28 AM
Well done-keep it blocked and have nothing more to do with him.

karenranu
Jun 6, 2011, 11:31 AM
It did hurt me when I blocked his number but I think he deserves it in a way because maybe he was using me only for sex...

I can't believe I'm doing this lol... I actually feel goood

amicon
Jun 6, 2011, 11:37 AM
That's because you've taken charge of your own life. ;-)

karenranu
Jun 6, 2011, 11:40 AM
I cnt beliv I've done this.. I actually feel good!

Lolz... hehehe.. wow this is a goood site... very encouraging I must say, I actually listened to you all lolz..

talaniman
Jun 6, 2011, 11:56 AM
I am so glad you have empowered yourself. That is the path to being happy with yourself.