I and my boyfriend have been living together for 4 1/2 years. He always says he loves me, (never says he is in love with me) but he also said he is still in love with his ex-wife and never get over her.

He and his ex divorced about 10 years and she is my next door neightbor. He can see her anytime, just open the gate, he will be in her room. I think he still in love with her, so he might cheat on me to have sex with her anytime they want.

I love sex 2 or 3 times a week, he can't not do it, so we agree to have sex every the other day. When having sex, I am the person who works all, he just lays there, he is to lazy to warm me up. We sleep the same bed, but never touch each other or hug each other at night or in the morning. He doesn't like to be touched when he sleeps, so there is a ton of pillows between us.

At first, I feel strange and it is difficult for me to sleep because I used to hug my ex husband arm when I sleep. With my boyfriend is different, do you think he loves me trufully or just says so to make me happy? Every time he said he loves me, I just didn't believe him because he says "i love you" with everybody he met, even customer service agent on the phone,or a stranger he just met and he also blows a kiss to people on the street.

If I say something about that or say something about his ex, he will yell at me that I am jealous and mean person. I never hurt anyone verbally.Yes, he hurts me a lot, he hurts my feelings. He says he needs me I know that is true because I care and do everything for him. Love him? I don't know, I need a place to stay, and someone to be with.
But I also need love and to be loved. I miss it. Happy? I don't know.

Sometimes I just want to walk away him, move on. But I am afraid if I move out and start over with new relaionship. Mighbe the next one is worse than him.

Addition, his sexual activity is worse and worse, he needs viagra to perform and he wants me to pay for that. My life is no love, no sex. Is that my fate? Also, somedays he says he wants to marry me, sometimes he says I never marry you. I never say anything back, just be quiet and never discuss about that with him, because I don't trust and believe what he said.

I am tired of my situation, my relationship, but can't get out off it. Please, help me and tell me what I should do.

It's time to make your mind up to get out of this relationship and spend some time being single and work on yourself esteem.

Leave him to his situation with the ex and allow yourself to be ready to meet a real man when you're ready.

Its wrong to compare one person to another, and if you are tired of your situation, then get out of it, be single, and don't get into another one until you know your needs will be met.

Getting into a relationship just for a place to stay is a lousy reason to be in one. So get out and figure yourself out, before you just jump into a warm place.

If you want to be married, have someone that you feel truly loves you, who treats you as you want to be treated, and he doesn't fill those needs, then you have little choice but to move on.

Sounds like he never got over his ex. Or wanted to.
Nor you, by comparing.

Living next door? We'll, that's got to be weird.

Let him figure out his priorities.

"Love him? I don't know, I need a place to stay, and someone to be with."

Maybe that's the key. Neither one of you seems to want each other, really. Just the idea/comfort of it.

"Mighbe the next one is worse than him.'"

That's up to you.

"I am tired of my situation, my relationship, but can't get out off it. "

Yeah, you can.

I agree with the others here. Be single for a bit.