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kittyrump
Jan 26, 2007, 10:15 PM
He hasn't asked me out yet even though known each other for over a month. When we see each other at school, we hug but he doesn't seem interested. When I ask him if he's busy this weekend, he says he's busy and he explains everything he has to do.
I really like him though, and I can't get him out of my mind.
I have dreams about him.
Every night I dream about him.
Should I stop wasting my time and move on?
Is there anything I should ask him?
How do I forget him?

Please, I'd like your advice.

JoeCanada76
Jan 27, 2007, 07:05 AM
Why not ask him if he would like to go out with you. If he says yes, then you could start seeing each other and get to know each other. If he says No, then you need to let go of that fantasy of being with him.

RubyPitbull
Jan 28, 2007, 11:39 AM
Kittyrump (love the name by the way), I agree with the entry above but this situation does not have to be so cut and dry. I don't know how old you are but I am guessing that you are in your early teens.

First, it sounds as if you are asking him what he is up to on the weekends. So, he is answering. Guys can be pretty thick. They don't always get the hints we give them.

It is hard to figure out whether he just likes you as a friend or as someone he might be interested in dating. We know he definitely likes you as a friend because he hugs you.

Depending on your ages, it just may be that he has not matured as quickly as you have, or he just might be shy in asking you out, or the third option is that he is not interested in girls at all.

Here is a suggestion. This next week, think about something specific that you would like to do or that you think a few of your mutual friends would enjoy doing (going to a movie and grabbing a slice of pizza, going bowling, iceskating/rollerblading, bike ride,. ) ask your other friends if they want to do that thing next weekend (or whatever day you have in mind) and see what other ideas and suggestions they might have. If everyone is in agreement as to what they want to do, then ask this guy if he wants to join the rest of you. This will avoid the akwardness and possibly the hurt you might feel if you ask him out and he flatly says no. If he says no he can't go, then he won't be rejecting you personally, he really just can't do it at that time. Then you can tell him that the invitation is open if he finds he can do it after all. Then tell him if just can't do it, he might want to join all of you at another time, and he should pick a day and some activity, and you will see if you can get everyone together. And, then go and do the original activity you planned with your friends and have a good time. Men should not be consuming our waking or sleeping hours. I promise you that if you do the things you love to do, the guys will see you as a more interesting catch.

I think it is best at this point in time to make this appear as a group activity rather than a one on one with this guy. You need to see how he is outside of school and around your friends. This will give you the opportunity for him to get to know you better and possibly come right out and ask you out on his own. If he doesn't, after a little while, you will get that gut feeling as to whether he is interested in you as more than just a friend. This way, it saves you the embarrassment and it saves you a friend. Then, you can move on knowing you have spared yourself a lot of grief and find someone new.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

mkay248
Apr 11, 2007, 07:00 PM
Maybe he just isn't that much into you. He probably just likes you as a friend now. You shouldn't rush the relationship. He might like you but he thinks he needs to wait a little longer. Just live your life now while you can. He will make a move eventually

mexicanachica811
Apr 15, 2007, 01:41 PM
I no just how you feel just ask if he likes you. I'm not to sure how to how to forget a guy I want to no myself but just try to find a different guy

kristynn
Apr 15, 2007, 03:28 PM
It sounds like he might like you but maybe only as a friend. If he would really like you and want to date you, he would definitely make himself available. Or maybe he has a girlfriend (?) or he's simply not 'emotionally' available.

It's hard to figure it out. Maybe you should give him some more concrete clues about what you want. He doesn't seem to get it.