XKRFGT
May 22, 2011, 06:49 AM
My girlfriend of 4 years stopped having sex with me. She lives with her family and usually comes to my place for sleepovers. Now we are both 28 years old but back then she was a virgin when I've first met her. She was always reluctant about having pre-marriage sex (because of her family, public opinion, traditions in her culture and the influence that her virgin friends have on her) but somehow she had the courage to have sex with me 3 years ago (said that she thinks she's getting old and doesn't make sense to avoid very natural feelings, said also she wanted to do it with me,. and I said YES)
Everything was perfect between us, had really really good times in a sensual way for 2 years. Life was also great, we both have graduated, got into nice jobs etc... Then last year her best friends (yeah, I'm talking about the virgin ones) started to get married and my girlfriend started to change. First she said something as stupid as I don't want to be a 30 years old bride, I'm going to definitely get married before my 30th.
We have an intention to get married but I just want to do it on my own, don't want to ask for money or support from parents to have the fancy wedding ceremony that she always have dreamed about or even for the mortgage of our starter-home, which means I need some more time to make it on my own.
For last 10 months we haven't had sex, very very limited number of sleepovers (every time I asked her to stay she came with another excuse) and when we sleep together we're like 7 years old cousins sharing a bed. She started to say that she feels sorry and bad about making the wrong decision on having pre-marriage sex. She is telling me about her newly wed friends and how happy they are because of choosing post-marriage sex and blah blah blah.
I'm a romantic guy, sex is not everything in a relationship but it is definitely something very important for me. Because I can't have sex without any romantic feelings, didn't have and won't have. I even haven't had an ONS or NSA fun for my whole life, because I just didn't want it. But for last few months my hormones is triggering something inside me, I have started to think and feel that I'm getting old and I have to use my physical capability and libido while I still have them. So, something evil is pushing me to cheat on her but I'm still resisting.
Last month my company assigned me to a project in another city. So now we are in a long distance relationship, we're going to see each other every 6 or 7 weeks. We are always on the phone for hours, use skype every time it is possible. But, I think I want to start to go out, go to clubs and to look for NSA fun and I feel terrible about thinking this way.
I'm eager to get some female POV on my situation. Is this a kind of lockout till I pop the question, or is she really feeling bad about it, is she seeing someone else?
Everything was perfect between us, had really really good times in a sensual way for 2 years. Life was also great, we both have graduated, got into nice jobs etc... Then last year her best friends (yeah, I'm talking about the virgin ones) started to get married and my girlfriend started to change. First she said something as stupid as I don't want to be a 30 years old bride, I'm going to definitely get married before my 30th.
We have an intention to get married but I just want to do it on my own, don't want to ask for money or support from parents to have the fancy wedding ceremony that she always have dreamed about or even for the mortgage of our starter-home, which means I need some more time to make it on my own.
For last 10 months we haven't had sex, very very limited number of sleepovers (every time I asked her to stay she came with another excuse) and when we sleep together we're like 7 years old cousins sharing a bed. She started to say that she feels sorry and bad about making the wrong decision on having pre-marriage sex. She is telling me about her newly wed friends and how happy they are because of choosing post-marriage sex and blah blah blah.
I'm a romantic guy, sex is not everything in a relationship but it is definitely something very important for me. Because I can't have sex without any romantic feelings, didn't have and won't have. I even haven't had an ONS or NSA fun for my whole life, because I just didn't want it. But for last few months my hormones is triggering something inside me, I have started to think and feel that I'm getting old and I have to use my physical capability and libido while I still have them. So, something evil is pushing me to cheat on her but I'm still resisting.
Last month my company assigned me to a project in another city. So now we are in a long distance relationship, we're going to see each other every 6 or 7 weeks. We are always on the phone for hours, use skype every time it is possible. But, I think I want to start to go out, go to clubs and to look for NSA fun and I feel terrible about thinking this way.
I'm eager to get some female POV on my situation. Is this a kind of lockout till I pop the question, or is she really feeling bad about it, is she seeing someone else?