View Full Version : I'm 19 and boyfriends going into army, should we get married ?
eggsxo10
May 20, 2011, 03:16 PM
I'm 19, I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now. We both know how much we love each other and how much we want to spend our lives together. He has been in the nation guard for about a year and 1/2 and He recently told me that to make our future better and to do what he was meant to do, he is going to go active duty. I am a sophomore in college and would like to graduate before I go with him. Should we wait to get married or do it before he leaves?
Alty
May 20, 2011, 03:21 PM
The fact that you're asking is enough of an answer. If you were 100% for getting married, you wouldn't be here asking us.
There's no harm in waiting. You're both young. If you love each other now, your love will stay strong until you're older, and not pushed into a decision.
I wish you both luck. ;)
DoulaLC
May 20, 2011, 04:03 PM
Are you living at home still? Are your parents supporting you for the most part?
I agree with Altenweg, in that there is no harm in waiting.
However, if you know that you have plans to marry at some point anyway, there are also benefits of being married before he goes.
You would have to discuss the pros and cons of both options and determine what you feel would be in both of your best interests.
Fr_Chuck
May 20, 2011, 08:13 PM
Finish college, let him get his first duty station behind him and settled into full time military. Since you 100 percent love each other, you still will in 2 years
talaniman
May 25, 2011, 11:28 AM
I think you wait! Plenty of time for marriage after you both have had a chance to accomplish your personal goals.
jackeve
May 26, 2011, 02:41 PM
If he loves you then he can wait for you. Its not marriage that will keep the two of you together but rather faithfulness which I believe you two love each other so much that you can be. At nineteen its too early for you. I advice you to complete college first then get married, he will wait for you and you will wait for him. If you fear so much I would sort of say engage yourselves, this will tie both of you but the marriage waits.
Wish you the best.