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needsagoodday
May 19, 2011, 07:02 PM
So I've just begun a long distance relationship against my will. I should be on top of the world, I just got a bachelor's degree and an acceptance to a master's program. But my college sweetheart who I've spent almost everyday with is 5 hours away from me for the next few years. We tried to apply to the same grad schools but it didn't work.

So I've been trying to just be happy with text messages but I don't get anything else. He hates talking on the phone and skyping, am I supposed to just be happy with text messages? We've done so much for each other, and gotten each other through some really rough times but now we argue via text message about everything. He deactivated his Facebook account and if I mention him in status updates or wall posts he freaks out on me. When I try to call him I get busy, tired, or dead phone excuses.

I'm worried that he might either be cheating on me or is just plain tired of me. He says it's a personality thing, not that he doesn't love me but should I believe him? He's made me incredibly happy for the past few years but now I'm afraid he doesn't need me anymore.

I've been lonely and depressed, had to move back in with my parents after graduation and I'm losing my mind. I want to run away, but like everyone else I'm broke. Do I need to let go of my sweetie? I do love him

talaniman
May 19, 2011, 09:45 PM
You don't have to break up, but just make a few adjustments, and have fun without him.

mmresd
May 20, 2011, 02:22 PM
He is probably feeling the same way you are and is trying to figure out how to make this work for him, just like you should be doing. There has been a big change in your relationship and very much needed change will need to take place, calm down, is not the end of the world, you believe he loves you and you need to trust him. If not then yeah, end the relationship, if it is going to affect your health being like that (because a LDR is not for everyone), but if you are decided to stick it out with him then stay together.

Good Luck,
Javi