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NunaNuna2
May 15, 2011, 03:37 AM
Hi my name is nuna I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months now we broke up... lately he's been so distant and finding excuses not to meet me he said some one is tracking him.he adds girls on his Facebook account and he talks about his ex I'm afraid he doesn't love me anymore when I asked him about the conv I read about that girl he said he wanted to make me leave him cz someone told him to leave me he told him I'm a bad girl but he knows that people are against our relation.I sent him a MSG to break up 5 days ago and he didn't reply I don't know what to do I'm so confused yesterday he added his ex's sister as a friend on Facebook I'm afraid he's happy with the breakup *** help

adviceishere
May 15, 2011, 03:45 AM
What a coward he is! You were right to end it, now you need to move on! I understand you confusion but from what I have read he doesn't want to be with you, he was just too spineless to tell you himself.

Leave it, cut contact and move on! Block him from your Facebook and stop checking it, it will drive you mad! Delet his phone number too. He is making you look like a fool and you deserve better!!

NunaNuna2
May 15, 2011, 03:57 AM
Thank you for the advice... I want to add something please 2 days ago he made a missed call from his dads phone number.. the next day I sent him a MSG asking him I it was him (I knew it was him) he didn't reply on my MSG why Is he doing that...

adviceishere
May 15, 2011, 04:03 AM
I can't say why he did that but he's probably enjoying having you chasing after him and wants to keep you confused! Don't give him that satisfaction and don't let him or anyone else tell you you're a bad person either, stay away from people that make you feel bad about yourself and confuse you and stick with people that make you feel nothing but happy! :)

NunaNuna2
May 15, 2011, 04:08 AM
If I stopped chasing and calling him , would he chase after me? When he realizes I'm not available anymore? Should I have hope that one day he's going to come back? I really apreciate your advice thank you

adviceishere
May 15, 2011, 04:23 AM
It would probably hurt his ego no doubt. You should forget about him, this isn't what a relationship is like! It's a game. Please don't chase after him or expect him to chase you or hope for anything good to come of this. I know from experience. Move on! You won't feel like this forever, that's one thing I can promise you! The sooner you forget him, the better!

talaniman
May 15, 2011, 05:56 AM
No one deserves that kind of treatment, and you should forget about him, and find a better match. How old are you both?

Homegirl 50
May 15, 2011, 11:30 AM
Why do you even want him back after all he has done?
Leave him alone. He is not worth anymore of your time.

NunaNuna2
May 15, 2011, 04:34 PM
I am 18 and he is 20... Why didn't he delete me from his friends list on Facebook he didn't even change the password of his email account isn't that weird? Thank u all for your help

Homegirl 50
May 15, 2011, 04:48 PM
No, he did not care enough one way or the other. This should not make any difference. The guy is a creep. Move on past this. The why is of no consequence.

NunaNuna2
May 17, 2011, 01:29 PM
Please I have a question about my ex boyfriend I'm afraid that I still jab feelings for him and today I realized that when I was with him I talked to him about my last exboyfriend, when I asked him about my last boyfriend he said that if I care enough then it means you want to go back to him. I see him stray when were at the same place when I asked him to advice me about my last ex whom I told you about, I asked him if I should go back to my last ex he said it's your choice I don't sit in your heart for me to know he didn't even give me one advice I really have feelings for him how should I know if he loves me too? Or I'm just over thinking? Help
Me please

talaniman
May 17, 2011, 09:17 PM
Over thinking and over reacting, leave your exes alone, and those jabs of feelings fade, if you let them.

amicon
May 17, 2011, 09:24 PM
He's your ex for a reason-now leave all exes in the past and move on-be happy single for a while-make new friends and enjoy life.

NunaNuna2
May 17, 2011, 11:48 PM
But I started to have feelings for him... how could I know if he still have feelings for me? Could gestures tell me
Something? He always stares at me , and when I was sitting in the back seat and he was sitting in the front seat he looks backwards towards me

talaniman
May 18, 2011, 08:04 AM
All humans have feelings for other humans. That doesn't mean lasting happiness, or even that its worth pursuing. For sure don't get carried away by your feelings and what may be going on in his head.

Do nothing until his actions and words match, as his gestures maybe just flirting because he can. Then you will know what's in his head, and heart. But you already know that don't you because he is an ex, so what does it matter? How did that work out before?

Look forward, not back!! Think with your brain, not your heart.