View Full Version : Will my mum need help?
alexandradrozdz
May 13, 2011, 02:42 PM
I think my mum's mentality has gone completely out of hand. She hates my Dad and screams at me. I sometimes just literally feel like punching her in the face,but part of me tells me that I shouldn't be thinking things like that. But I can't help it, it's what comes naturally to me. My dad just tells me its anger management issues but I think it is much more than that and no matter how many times I persuade him to talk to someone about it, he won't do it and instead says that if she wanted help she would go see someone herself, but clearly she doesn't and carries on the way she does. I feel like my confidence and self esteem has lowered. I'm told that I should go along with she does and says, but I'm finding it to difficult to cope. All I could ask for is a happy peaceful family life until the day I leave home,one in which everyone respects each other and discusses problems calmly and rationally. I'm not saying that my Mum should not get angry, as it's a natural emotion, but I'd be so happy if she could express it in a healthier way so it doesn't have an impact on our and her own mental health.
Please help if you can. I would really appreciate it.
JudyKayTee
May 13, 2011, 02:45 PM
I don't know if your Mom needs help. Presumably she knows and can make her own decision. I don't know that you can do anything to force her to seek help.
I also don't know that you can control your father.
I don't know that you can force peace and tranquility on anyone until you leave and then they can all go crazy again.
The only person you CAN control is yourself. If you are thinking about punching your mother in the face, you need to speak to someone about anger management. You can do nothing to solve their problems but you can take steps to find peace with the situation, within yourself.
You can't control other people; you can only control your actions and reactions.
alexandradrozdz
May 13, 2011, 03:04 PM
Ok, but if you get what I'm saying, you feel as if you want to do something back to a person who makes you angry, but you know you shouldn't. That's what it's like with me. But yeah, I guess you're right and I actually feel pretty bad about saying what I said, about that punching her in the face business. Thank you for the tip. I'll really try to work on it.
bazhulk
Jun 7, 2011, 06:09 AM
Make an apointment with your doctor g.p.and ask your mum to come with you once yous are both in the docs office comfront her with your worries and I am sure she will love you in the long run for it, depending on your mothers age she may be going through the menapause or she may just need some antidepressants eitherway this is affecting your health so make that apointment for yourself and ask mum to join you.
Im sure you will be fine.