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reimei
May 12, 2011, 12:09 PM
Why is this after only 2 weeks he already looks so happy hanging out with the girls on Facebook? He even say he misses hanging out with them, which he never did to me.
It was a 2 year first love of both of us, and he broke up with me when I was sick, and in the middle of finals. He said he has not been feeling it for a while and he just never told me about it. In a split second he walks out of the door, telling me to not call him or anything. 3 days after that he s already partying out. I am just broken hearted.
mmresd
May 12, 2011, 12:17 PM
I think the break up for him happened a long time ago, as for you it happened the day he stepped out. Therefore, he has probably been healing for a while and is using the partying to keep him distracted from thinking about you. You need to give yourself time to heal that's all, you will be back to normal eventually. Live your life like he is.
Good Luck,
Javi
reimei
May 12, 2011, 12:34 PM
I get what you are saying. I guess it is just too hard for me knowing that he is hurting me that badly. I feel betrayal. And I am just learning about him right now.
sharper11
May 12, 2011, 01:28 PM
It's obvious that he was over the relationship before the break up. So to you, it seems sudden, to him it seemed normal.
In this case, it's normal for him to want to start hanging out with other people and partying. Now, I'm not saying he is right for hurting you, but he obviously did not want to be in a relationship.
I know it's tough, but look at it this way, at least he ended it, and told you he wanted to break up. Now you know and can move on.
amicon
May 12, 2011, 10:47 PM
Your feelings are normal;he dumped you and had probably broken up with you in his mind weeks before the event.
You need to start putting your life back together;stop looking at his FB and move forwards-keeping busy and being around friends and family.
You'll get over him and will come to realise that there's plenty more fish in the sea.
talaniman
May 13, 2011, 07:28 AM
You are still hurt, and in shock, he is not. Dumpers always have a head start of dealing with a break up, and the one who gets dumped has no clue it was coming.
Time will be your friend, as the shock wears off, and the dust settles. Then you will see that you are free to do better and be happier than you were.
I wish
May 13, 2011, 09:54 AM
Unfortunately, if he's able to break up so suddenly after a 2 year relationship, it means that he's already been thinking about it for a while. Once he made up his mind, he didn't even give you a chance to fight back for him, he just let you go. Which means that he's very sure of his decision, which is why it seems like he's already moved on, because he's been moving on for a while now.
As for you, this has come as a sudden shock, so you're only at the early stages of the break up. If it gets tougher on you, then I suggest that you take him off your Facebook friends list. The more you get updates about his life, the more you're going to overanalyze the break up. It's best to put him behind you and leave him in the past. Checking up on him now will only make you more frustated and prolong the suffering.
reimei
May 26, 2011, 08:25 PM
After 2 years of being with me, he told me that he doesn't love me anymore, and that he hurt me too much, its can't be fixed. He broke up with me in the middle of finals, when I was laying in bed sick, and has not contacted me ever since.
I gave him all I had, and so I did not regret a single thing. I know he has been abusive, and selfish, and so I did not beg, or call, or text. I cut off all contacts, especially after he posted some hurtful status on Facebook, knowing that I would see them.
After a month, I feel as if I have moved on a lot more quickly than I thought I could. I did not expect him to contact me. I think deep down, I am relieved that it is over, he cannot hurt me anymore.
But today when people suddenly asked me if he has contacted me or not, and told me that he is such an ***, I felt sad again. I do not feel like I am doing well anymore. Should I expect to hear from him?
Alty
May 26, 2011, 09:07 PM
No. He's ended the relationship, he's gone to no contact, and there's no reason for him to contact you. You two are no longer a couple, there's nothing left for him to say. If he did contact you it would just put you back at square one.
Continue moving forward and forget about him. If he does call, don't answer. Neither one of you have any reason to say anything further to each other.
amicon
May 27, 2011, 11:40 AM
No,in reply to your question.
Keep moving on-don't pay attention to what people say-simply tell them you're not interested in talking about him.