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sharoy
May 12, 2011, 07:22 AM
I was making out with my boyfriend after a long time.We were both naked and he was on top of me.
In our previous making out sessions,he has rub his penis at my vagina.. but whenever he tries to penetrate me.. I will feel pain and he will stop.Its like there's something in my vagina stopping it.. I don't know what is it
But today when he tried to penetrate me,I actually felt his penis entering me a bit.Im reli worried that I'm not a virgin anymore.. I didn't bleed or anything.Does this means I'm not a virgin anymore?

J_9
May 12, 2011, 07:24 AM
Due to posting restrictions, your age is required prior to us answering questions in Adult Sexuality.

sharoy
May 12, 2011, 07:28 AM
Im 19 this year...

Synnen
May 12, 2011, 08:01 AM
Penis entering vagina = not virgin.

The second the very tip of his penis went into your vagina, you ceased to be a virgin.

Cat1864
May 13, 2011, 07:34 AM
It is correct that his inserting his penis even a little bit into your vagina means that you are no longer a virgin.

I am concerned that you are playing sexual games and hope that you are on birth control or using some form of contraceptive or you could end up being parents.

Since he has tried penetrating you before and you are still making out with him while naked and allowing him to put his penis anywhere near your vagina, I can only guess that you haven't fully thought through losing your virginity or the possibility of getting pregnant until now. I highly suggest you stop playing around with him and figure out what exactly you want and how far you are prepared to go. Just because you aren't technically a virgin anymore does not mean that you have to have sex with him. Once you know what your own boundaries are communicate them to your boyfriend. Make certain you both have the same goals and expectations in the relationship.

EmbracingPose
May 13, 2011, 08:31 AM
I didn't bleed upon losing my virginity either; you are NOT a virgin any more. Make him use a condom and get yourself checked out by a physician if you haven't worn a condom during the rubbing, etc.

EmbracingPose
May 13, 2011, 08:36 AM
Hey Sharoy... go to a Plan Parenthood session to learn more information about your sexuality. Know what you are doing at all times. Did you WANT to loose your virginity? It sounds like you did.

Cat1864
May 13, 2011, 10:56 AM
EmbracingPose, to my knowledge, Malaysia (Sharoy's location) does not have a chapter of Planned Parenthood.

Please keep in mind that our posters come from all over the world. What resources are available in one place may not be in another.

EmbracingPose
May 17, 2011, 01:06 PM
Chuck, there is nothing wrong with Planned Parenthood; they have a plethrol of resources for thise who do NOT have insurance OR young teens/adults. If she goes to a local doctor, she may have to dish out money/parent's insurance for feedback. Step into a young girls world... there is nothing wrong with Planned Parenthood

smoothy
May 17, 2011, 01:20 PM
EmbracingPose does not find this helpful : Doesn't relate to the subject matter. If you don't have an alternative, don't respond.

EmbracingPose - That post by Cat1864 was very MUCH relevant to the thread. The OP advertises their location as Malaysia

Please acquaint yourself with the rules for comments at this link...
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forum-help/using-comments-feature-official-guidelines-24951.html

There was NOTHING factually incorrect with their post.

Alty
May 17, 2011, 05:03 PM
Chuck, there is nothing wrong with Planned Parenthood; they have a plethrol of resources for thise who do NOT have insurance OR young teens/adults. If she goes to a local doctor, she may have to dish out money/parent's insurance for feedback. Step into a young girls world... there is nothing wrong with Planned Parenthood

I will reiterate what others have said. Planned parenthood is something that's available in the US. In Malaysia, where the OP is from, there is no planned parenthood. The only alternative the OP has is to educate herself. Obviously she has the internet. If she wants info on reproduction, sex, her body, etc. etc. then it's available to her.

You are going all over the board handing out negative ratings for posts that are opinion, or factually accurate. You agreed to the rules when you signed up to the site. The rules aren't a suggestion, they're the rules. It's time to acquaint yourself with them.

Disagrees/unhelpful/negative ratings are for factually incorrect info only. Not for opinions, and not for factually correct info. You may not agree, but if the poster is accurate you have no right to give them a negative rating.

ScottGem
May 17, 2011, 05:13 PM
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EmbracingPose does not find this helpful : Doesn't relate to the subject matter. If you don't have an alternative, don't respond.

This is my second and final warning about misusing the Comments feature.

Enigma1999
May 17, 2011, 05:25 PM
K, I would just like to add that there is nothing wrong with planned parenthood from MY experience. That's just my opinion... That being said, I don't believe that Embracing should have gotten a red mark for her opinion. However, I don't know about all of the other reds that SHE has been giving out, nor do I care...

Now back to the OP, Yes, everyone is correct... once the penis enters the vagina, you are no longer a virgin. Even though you are 19, (and that is young) you do seem too young to be engaging in sexual activities.

Enigma1999
May 17, 2011, 05:27 PM
I feel some reddies coming on with my last post.

FadedMaster
May 17, 2011, 07:07 PM
K, I would just like to add that there is nothing wrong with planned parenthood from MY experience. That's just my opinion... That being said, I don't believe that Embracing should have gotten a red mark for her opinion. However, I don't know about all of the other reds that SHE has been giving out, nor do I care....

I thought that myself at first, but then I made the connection that was pointed out and that was that the suggestion isn't a viable option for the OP, as she lives in Malaysia.

I do agree with what Cat said. OP, you need to figure out what you want from the relationship and discuss it with your significant other. Develop some ground rules and stick to it.

If you don't want to have sex, and he cares for you, he will not have a problem sticking to your wishes. Let us know what you decide to do and how it goes. :)