I have never done this so please bare with me.

I dated this girl for 2 years and recently broke up 5 months ago and I can't get over her. Everything was amazing except when she drank and that's what caused the break. Every time we drank she would get hammered and her excuse would always be "it just hits me all of a sudden" It got to the point where I told her she needed to get treatment because she was killing herself.

One day she was suppose to come over and she was taking longer then she usually does so I called her and no answer. I called a few times and the police pick up her phone and tell me she was found drunk passed out and if it wasn't for the person who was walking their dog she wouldn't be found. Anyway they took her to the hospital etc.

Anyway she had problems at home with her parents and eventually got kicked out so she was living at my house for 5 months. One night we went to her friends house party and again she got smashed and our agreement was to go home at a reasonable time because I had work the next morning and she kept telling me she was going to stay she didn't want to come home with me (she was living at my house at this time)anyways this was so frustrating because it was not the first time this has happen and it created such a huge build up of anger towards me that I pushed her face and all of a sudden she started crying telling her friends I hit her etc. Now I'm being charged for this. All this has happen and I still want to be with her because all I think about is the amazing times we had and I know we can still have but she's changed so much.

So once her parents found out her parents took her back to the house and ever since that happen we texted each other, met up until it got to the point where she said she needed a break. We didn't see each other but we just texted each other. A week later we couldn't handle the break so we met up cuddled etc. One night we drank and again she got smashed and started being psycho or what not so the next day I broke up with her because I couldn't take it no more.

Now its been 5 months that we have been over and all I've been doing is msging her saying I want her back, I want things to be the same as before and all she would say is she does miss me and loves me but she's fooling around behind my back because people have told me but she would always deny and tell me she loves me etc. Now till today she ignores doesn't reply to me nothing. Im out of her life completely and its killing me inside and out.

A friend told me she saw her at a party smashed and *****ed some guy. I don't know what to do.. please help

You have broken up with her and have made a decision. So now, all you can do is learn how to cope to moving on without her. Remember the reasons you broken up with her. Let her live her life and you do the same. Next time think about what you are doing before you do thing, because it is a lot easier to prevent than to fix. Just maintain busy and don't contact her, it will take some time, but you will be back on your feet soon enough.

You get your act together and detox from this mess.

Whatever problems she has she gets to sort out herself now-you dodged a bullet,so stay away,no contact,and get busy doing your own thing.

Are you kidding me? Leave the drunk alone and take more time without her. Eventually, you will get over your insanity!

"all ive been doing is msging her saying i want her back"

Why? Are you that desperate? That's pathetic.

She's got issues, and so do you, for putting up with her. Was that fun? Doesn't sound like it.

How about going on your happy way, & maybe find a girl that's adjusted. (When YOU are ready, of course)

She obviously doesn't want to continue, hence the NC. Why force it?

So, she can do this all over again. If you think that she's magically changed, you're tripping.

Don't be a masochist.

NC buddy. Just like her...

*** ignore her as early as you can...
I request you that don't waste your life.
Let her live her life.
As no one can foirce anyone to change.
You have tried your best to make the situation best but finally if is not ready than you can not do anything about it.
*** time is the only heal for it.so manage yourself once you can do it it would be easier for you.
Don't try to put yourself in such bad situation which makes you hurt again and again.