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brittneymarie45
May 10, 2011, 10:13 AM
My father got a restraining order on my boyfriend but I am pregnant with the boyfriend's kid how can I drop the restraining order

AK lawyer
May 10, 2011, 10:28 AM
If your father got the restraining order, your father would have to ask the court to dismiss the order.

But why? Do you imagine the fact that you are pregnant will somehow change your ex (?) boyfriend into a peaceable, law-abiding person?

joypulv
May 10, 2011, 11:20 AM
Are you under 18? Is he 18 or older? Your father can have him arrested. When you are 18 you can leave home and your boyfriend can support all 3 of you.

PeaceAndLove89
May 10, 2011, 12:06 PM
If there's anything I've learned from being young and not agreeing/fighting with my parents about things that they tried to control -- I am now thankful for them being there. I don't know why your father took out a restraining order on him, but you have to have good reason to have on stick. Was it an Ex-Parte order? (Those are temporary usually around 10 days or until the scheduled court hearing) or is it an actual long term restraining order? Either way I'm sure your father sees something in your boyfriend that you are blinded to right now which is understandable considering you probably love him and you are pregnant. But from my own personal experience as having a restraining order against one of my ex boyfriends when I was younger, I'm glad I got it and that it stuck. Your parents are probably looking out for your best interest; and I would trust them. If this is just about a matter of them simply not liking the guy, then I could understand your desire to overturn it. However, I also know from experience that you have to have a good reason to have one put in place to begin with. I don't know your situation but I hope you are being wise about this decision if your boyfriend is physically/emotionally/mentally abusive. It's not just about you now; you have another life to look after that's growing in your belly and you need to consider that child's life too. Best wishes to you.

bkdaniels
May 10, 2011, 03:57 PM
No you cannot drop a restraining order your father has against your boyfriend. Even though you are pregnant, he cannot come within the distance issued on the restraining order. If you want to see him or he wants to see the child, the two of you will have to schedule a different time and place to do that.

No one ask for these types of situations, but when they happen, you want to make the best of them that you can. The first thing you want to do is to keep matters from getting worse. You can do this by honoring each persons request. For example, if your father does not want your boyfriend around, you will temporarily have to keep him away. By the time the baby is born, hopefully, things would have cooled off.

If not, don't panic. Things will get back to normal slowly but surely. It is important for each person to accept the situation as it is. Most importantly, your dad has to realize that your boyfriend will always be in your life and your boyfriend needs to realize that if he wants to be with you, he is going to have to accept the fact that this is your dad and you love him. So many times have I seen disputes in the family only because the parents do not agree with the person the child is going out with. You boyfriend does not have to like your dad.

Of course, it would be nice. But, he doesn't have to. With the restraining order, however, he must keep his distance from your father to keep someone from getting hurt or in serious trouble. Believe me, these things do escalate...

Hope this answers your question!

hmoses2k11
Sep 28, 2011, 09:01 AM
I've just found out Im pregnant too. The father is a man who I have a restraining order on as well. He isn't allowed to come near me for 3 years but me and him both got drunk and met up and had a one night thing and were texting for a while after, I'm still figuring out what to do, you can get the order dropped but it has to be for reasonable reasons. I won't get mine dropped just in case he becomes who he was before. I hope you know what to do. I really dont/:

twinkiedooter
Sep 28, 2011, 09:34 AM
My father got a restraining order on my boyfriend but I am pregnant with the boyfriend's kid how can I drop the restraining order

How long is the restraining order for? If it is for say 6 months it has to be renewed via a hearing where dad has to show good cause why it should continue. If there is no hearing held to continue the R/O, then it dies a natural death all on it's own. Only your dad can ask the court to terminate it. And by the way, the R/O does not stop you from filing for child support if he is the father of your child.

AK lawyer
Sep 28, 2011, 11:12 AM
... you can get the order dropped but it has to be for reasonable reasons. ...

Not really. The court doesn't usually care why the petitioner would ask to drop the order.

And if, as you did, the person who asked for the order meets up with the person restrained, the order is really not enforceable any more.

JLGS14
Apr 18, 2012, 10:42 AM
Hmoses2k11: question for u... I am in the same situation how are you handling this?

JLGS14
Apr 18, 2012, 10:43 AM
Hmoses2k11: I am in the same situation, just wondering what you decided on?

AK lawyer
Apr 18, 2012, 11:06 AM
Hmoses2k11: i am in the same situation, just wondering what you decided on?

The OP is probably not going to see this. Why not start a new thread, tell us briefly what's going on and where you are, and ask us a question.