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How can I get my man to be more passionate with me?
More intimate without the sex without the physical?
More sensual and sweet like he can't get enough of me.
More initiation on his part like if I was just sitting
There and suddenly he grabbed me and started kissing me.
I am usually the one that turns the steam on whether he's
Already in the mood for me or I put him in the mood it's
Like he's not sure what to do never asks questions or tries
Anything new or interesting always the same thing same
Pattern I am kinky and want to explore him but he's not in to that
What can I do?

A lot of guys are kind of at a loss as to what to do with a woman, and are shy about asking questions. All men fantasize (with some being what they consider rather odd), but few talk out loud about it.
Start reading out loud to him at bedtime. Penthouse Forum or similar. Then try some short erotica stories that are more romantically based. Try to use these stories to get him to open up to talking about it more. Tell him what you find romantic, erotic, kinky, etc. with the story and then get his opinion.

Thank you ill try it

Firstly can you tell us how old you are?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/addictions/will-quitting-help-575114.html

Op is 23.

I was looking over your other threads and smoking weed is probably a prime cause in the lack of passion your looking for in your relationship.

In the link provided above you say you both smoke weed daily, quitting is the first step in getting healthy.

Then you can work on recovering the passion.

I am 22 year old female

Thank you

Had to spread the rep Red. Linnsey the sooner you both do this the better! Start doing something productive with each other. Get new hobbies and have that positive influence on one and other! Things will probably fall into place one there's some good clean fun involved first ;) and you're both more healthy and energetic

Get help quitting your addiction.

Find the nearest organisation locally and make an appointment to see a counselor.

In another thread you say that he has 'klinefelter syndrome' (klinefelter syndrome - Bing Health (http://www.bing.com/health/article/mayo-126726/Klinefelter-syndrome?q=klinefelter+syndrome)).

I looked it up and found that it is a genetic condition where a male is born with an extra x chromosome. It seems one of the affects for adult men can be decreased sex drive and sexual problems. He may not be capable of doing what you want. Has his testosterone level been checked?

If his testosterone level is low, he may not have the hormonal drive to want sex.

Communicate with him. Talk to him about what you need and want. Listen to him. If he isn't kinky (and actually has a sex drive), then maybe you can find a compromise. However, first make sure his body is functioning correctly. You aren't going to get very far if his body isn't working with you.

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As Cat pointed the best thing you can do is find out if it is possible for him to be the man you wish for.

And communicate .
The more you know the better you will be able to find ways to help him along , and vice versa .
Sometimes just talking about new things to add to you sex life is stimulating and could be a catalyst to get some new spark.

Before the caring and sharing can reach its full potential, you both must be happy, and healthy enough to get to that level together, and that's where you have to get off the weed, and have the proper guidance to rebuild yourself after so long being in a drug induced fog, where your perceptions and growth were severely stunted, by the combinations of drugs you have taken. Only then can you recover, rebuild, and start to build something healthy, happy, and good.

You must first get the right help, and guidance, and be willing to make some changes, very hard ones to be sure, but well worth it. That's my advice for both you, and your husband. Get off the weed.

If your guy is so different than you that it bothers you to the point that he stresses you out. Why not look for someone who is more like you? Maybe a guy more kinky or that has a higher sex drive would be more appropriate? You are not required to stay with someone who you are not happy with.

Good Luck,
Javi

I'm married to him and I don't have a job what you just said was not helpful I choose to be with him it's not as simple as getting a divorce after almost a year of marriage because he is different than me