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hickleberry
May 7, 2011, 04:03 PM
Hi. Me and my girlfriend were really happy and planning to get married after I proposed. We were together for 15 months. We had a baby girl during that time as well. All was going well, until my car got written off. Because I need my car to commute to work and back (16 miles) as soon as it went I had no choice but to move back to my parents who live near my work, because we could'nt afford a new car. The problems started as soon as I was living away from home (monday - friday) and we only saw each other at weekends. We started to argue a lot, and we both felt like we were single. I offered to have a break 3 times, but we could not do it. We both love each other and we allways say were soulmates to each other. But all of a sudden she rang me to end it, she says she wants to be with me forever, loves me, I'm her soulmate, but just can't see us getting better. I told her I won't talk to her unless its about my child and I told her I can't see her again as I will need to get over her. I arranged for my dad to pick my child up every week. I just want to know why she ended it? Is she confused? Hope people can help put my mind at rest, thank you

talaniman
May 7, 2011, 07:22 PM
She ended it because she made the mistake of getting pregnant by a guy she only knew a few months and not very well. To late to change the past, just be a great dad now and in the future so the child doesn't suffer because the parents made a mistake.

sharper11
May 12, 2011, 12:55 PM
No one can tell you why she ended it. How long were you together before she was pregnant? How long before Engaged? 15 months together (in total) is a very short time for an engagement and pregnancy. And, How old are you two?

She could have been very confused & scared. As most people would be in this situation. Try to look at it from her point of view:

(All within 15 months)
1. Met a Guy
2 (or 3). Pregnant
3 (or 2). Engaged
4. Partner lost his car
5. Partner moved Out

At this point, I would assume she was thinking "Where is my life headed?". And if she thought that, she just matured, a lot.

--- I would suggest getting over your "I'm not talking to you" phase quickly and start preparing to take care of your child. No matter how your partner made you feel, it will help your child to be on good terms with the mother.

Good luck, you're about to grow up.