Let me give you some background... I am not at all desperate. All my friends are couples and there is really no girls in my school to pick from. I have no interest in anyone from my school. I've been there, done that, I'm moved on. Please listen to every detail here.

Ok. So I'm senior in High School and graduation is around the corner. I've been dancing since the age of three and this year is my last dance recital forever! I met this girl last year who is really awesome! We have so much in common. We both love to read, watch movies, love fantasy, classic music, not trying to sound geeky here lol and a few other stuff. Her personality is so mature and out of everyone in my class, she kicks their *** for maturity and being more of an adult. (NOTE: I love girls who act mature for their age) I also make movies too and she loves them and watches them every time I make something new. She comments on all of them on Youtube and she even made me a promo video to support my filmmaking. I mean this girl is really awesome!!

Here is the hard part. This girl is a freshman and I'm starting to have feelings for her. Again, I am in no rush for a relationship! But she is something I tell you! Her best friend added me on Facebook for some reason and she told me her dad loved my performance in our musical theatre routine last year and he thought I was amazing. So the parents already think I'm awesome lol. Also this summer I'm planning on having her and her sister in my next movie I'm making.

I understand that it might be weird for a senior loving a freshman. But look around you! I know people who are in a relationship with someone 6 years older than them! Hell even my mom is a few years older than my dad! Also that guy Robert Pattinson from Twilight (Im not a twilight fan by the girl I like is) is four years older than Kristen Stewart! I understand once I'm 18 I'm an adult by law and if I did anything with her it would be considered rape. But I'm not like that at all! Despite all the jackasses and heartless kids that are from my school, I have complete respect for women! If I was in a relationship with her, she and I would both know what is right and what is wrong. She does not smoke, drink or party, thank god! I totally see her in my future and she would make a perfect girl for me. And of course she is beautiful and pretty too!

Im going to college next year but I'm not intending on having a relationship with anyone that goes to my school/college/university. Never happened in high school and it won'thappen in college? So what should I do? Wait for her until she is 18 which is in 3 years? Or actually tell her how I feel? Seriously I'm the most mature guy you will ever meet and I will treat a lady with respect. Again she is too perfect to be ignored! Honestly people, 3 years is not really that bad right?

If you can let her parents know first before you even tell her anything that would be better, it's better to start with the most difficult ones than the easy one... As a parent myself I would want my daughter to invite any boy that is interested on her, that way I know what to expect. It shows respect for the girl, if the parents are cool people they would make you feel welcome and that also would make you feel like family then that's when you tell her which of course she would already know but for much respect this is what I suggest... Unless my dear you would like to wait 3 more years which is not much and if you're the type of guy who can keep his word then you would wait...

Now my question is what if you wait any longer and she outgrown you? in times she no longer would want you... Think about that also my dear, me myself don't waste time, I think what's yours is always going to be yours no matter what so invite God in this matter... Good luck...

The people who say age doesn't matter are generally the ones who want to justify a relationship they know is questionable.

Age differences certainly do matter, they just matters less and less as the parties get older. So comparing a 6 yr difference between adults to a 3 yr difference between teens is apples and oranges. And comparing a fictional romance...

That all being said, I see a relationship here based mostly on a mutual love of dance and theater. It may or may not be enough. But if you are 18 and she is 15, its on the edge. As long as you keep the relationship from getting sexual AND you both have her parents permission to date, then you can try and see how it goes.

You almost had me until you got here,


I'm going to college next year but I'm not intending on having a relationship with anyone that goes to my school/college/university. Never happened in high school and it won't happen in college?
For one you have no way of knowing who you will meet or what you will be involved in, but lets be real, you won't be there for this young girl through what should be some fun times before she graduates high school. You cannot predict because as a high school kid what happens as a young adult at college, and relationship or not, school or not, you will be too busy to meet a young girl needs.


So what should I do? Wait for her until she is 18 which is in 3 years? Or actually tell her how I feel?
Yes you should wait in my opinion, just to give her a chance to grow, and mature as you have. Telling her how you feel can wait until then. I know, the crush is strong, and it sounds so good on paper, but given you won't be there to share good times properly, its not fair to her is it?


Seriously I'm the most mature guy you will ever meet and I will treat a lady with respect. Again she is too perfect to be ignored! Honestly people, 3 years is not really that bad right?
Well mature guy, do the right thing for the young girl, and not just act on your own feelings, and remember, you can share very little of her high school experience with her. Not fair she has to be left behind in your own fantasy.

Regardless of your feelings for her, grown men, legally grown men, should confine their romantic interests to grown woman who are as mature as they are and leave children alone. You may be mature enough for a long distance relationship, but is she? I doubt it! You may be mature enough for a long distance adult relationship, but is she?? NO! She is not an adult, so let her grow, and let her family raise her.

I am also a dad, and no way do I let a college guy sniff around my 14/15 year old daughter! 3 years to a dad is a lifetime. If you are mature as you say, get a mature woman, and leave my daughter alone. Got it???

"Now my question is what if you wait any longer and she outgrown you?, in times she no longer would want you... Think about that also my dear, me myself don't waste time, I think what's yours is always gonna be yours no matter what so invite God in this matter... Good luck...."

I thought about that too. After dance I will never see her again every week for the next 3 years until she graduates high school but then she goes onto college. The only way we can keep it alive I think is if we see each other more outside of dance and do more activities with each other! And yes, God Bless!!