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mandalynnn
May 2, 2011, 12:51 PM
I have been married to my husband for almost 3 years. We seem to be one of those love/hate couples. We love hard and fight hard. He ends up getting frustrated in our arguments (as I never back down - stubborn me)and ends up saying really hateful things to me. I have been called every name in the book by him. At first I was hurt by all the name calling, and after awhile, I have become hard to it. I brush things off and forget easily most things. Deep down I know he doesn't mean those things after all.

Anyway, we had a big fight a couple days before he had to go out of town for work (for one night). He ended up going out with a buddy he has that lives in that city, one of his best friends. He told me where he was going, but didn't text me that night as he said he would. I tried getting a hold of him for hours, and nothing. I finally got a hold of him at 3:30am at his hotel room, he said he lost his phone. BIG fight after that, as I didn't believe him. I accused him of everything, cheating lying, you name it. He was very calm. Not like him at all. Especially after being prevoked by me. He gets home late the next night, I told him I was still mad, and went to bed.

The next day was Friday, and I went to work. I chatted with him a bit during the day nothing too much. I came home from work, and he had poured me a drink, was being sweet, and told me he had to pick up his trailer we had stored at a friends. So I would start supper... it was just me and my 2 year old daughter home.

About 20 minutes later, I was chatting on the phone with my mom, and I felt dizzy. I got off the phone with her, and headed to the bathroom as I thought I was going to be sick. I never did throw up, but I couldn't lift my head, my body was numb. He came home and my daughters stuff was all over the place, she was into everything. He came in and seen me hunched over the toilet with my head in hands and was all happy. I said I don't know what happened, and he was laughing. I then freaked and said "you tried to poison me!!" He kept saying no no your fine, come and lay on the couch bla bla. I laid there for a bit, and the whole time just watching him and thinking to myself what the hell is going on.

I got up after being so thirsty and looked in the mirror and my pupils were huge! I realized then, after feeling all "funny" that he drugged me. But with what? I was extremley calm, and then just acted like nothing was wrong
And we started chatting. For hours. I knew the whole time, but was so scared I didn't know what he gave me.

Finally I confronted him and told him I knew he put something in my drink, and for him to tell me what it was or I was calling the police getting a drug test and telling them he poisoned me. After much silence he said ecstasy. He wanted me to be calm and talk about our relationship and all this stuff. Can you fricken believe that? Weird being I was so calm from the stuff, we talked and had a good talk.

But now it's a couple days later, and I keep remembering how scared I was in the bathroom that he was trying to kill me. What do I do?

sharper11
May 2, 2011, 01:52 PM
I'll be very honest here, I do not know any "mature" man that would do this to their wife. First thing, ecstasy is not a drug that you should be slipping someone. I would really wonder about your husbands motives. If he wanted you to feel calm, maybe he should have offered a back rub.

Now, as far as trusting him again, that is going to take time (and effort on his part). That was a pretty bad thing to do. And the fact that he was laughing about it just makes it worse.

Now, payback is an option (but then your just lowering yourself to his level) ;) but still :)

massplumber2008
May 2, 2011, 03:24 PM
Yeah...

What he did not only endangered your life, but the life of your child, too!

I hate to say it, but this is something that needed to be reported to the police... who could have known what your reaction to this strong and dangerous drug would be... could've caused you to harm yourself or the child... very bad stuff here!

My opinion... trust lost, get rid of this guy before he hurts you again. This is not the action of a sound mind/person!

I am sorry... hate to see these kinds of things especially when children are involved!

Glad to discuss more if you want. Hopefully others will pop in to share their thoughts... ;)

Mark

Alty
May 2, 2011, 04:12 PM
I have to say that I agree with MP (Massplumber). This guy drugged you without your consent. He not only drugged you, he drugged you and then left you alone with a toddler.

He had no idea what effect this drug would have on you, but he didn't care. He gave it to you anyway. When he came home and found you in the bathroom feeling sick, he laughed!

I'd not only divorce him, I'd kick his arse out right now. What a jerk! That's not marriage, that's what rapists do! :(

talaniman
May 7, 2011, 04:40 PM
Harshness warning


If you don't have the common sense to see this poison relationship or whatever you call it is dangerous, and unhealthy, and leave, then you do need a lot of mental help ASAP!!

Accidentally dead, is still dead, you, him, or your child!!