She used to talk to me years ago, however she is much shyer now and hardly talks to me at all (although, she talks to my parents’ like she’s known them her whole life). She only says a few words like “good night” or “yeah”.

Take last Saturday for example: I tried to say something, such as “what book is that” to try to get an answer from her. Instead, her Mom answered for her. Another incident that night was when she told her brother something that she could’ve told the both of us. I chimed in saying that “I told him that already.” All she did was look left and right, almost with shifty eyes. The most I could get from her was a smile from her before she got off the couch and a “bye” as she was leaving. Before we said bye I said out loud “This is great weather”. She had her arms crossed and she responded by groaning. I guess I shouldn’t have said that.

For some reason, I don’t think she likes me in any shape or form.

Are you two dating? How long have you been dating? If you are together:

Many couples who have been in a long relationship, or who are married get bored of each other. The key is to learn as much as you can about the person. Make it a point to be a student of your partner throughout your entire life(if you want to be with her, you're going to have to marry her or break up with her right?? )

If you're just friends, why don't you try to do some more interesting things with her? And ask her what her feelings are for you.

There is this shy girl, who happens to be the sister of one of my best friends. I’ve known the two of them (off and on) for the past nine years. Back then she wasn’t so However, she is much shyer now and hardly talks to me at all (although, she talks to my parents’ like she’s known them her whole life). She only says a few words like “good night” or “yeah”.

Take last Saturday for example: I tried to say something, such as “what book is that” to try to get an answer from her. Instead, her Mom answered for her. Another incident that night was when she told her brother something that she could’ve told the both of us. I chimed in saying that “I told him that already.” All she did was look left and right, almost with shifty eyes. The most I could get from her was a smile from her before she got off the couch and a “bye” as she was leaving. Before we said bye I said out loud “This is great weather”. She had her arms crossed and she responded by groaning. I guess I shouldn’t have said that.

For some reason, I don’t think she likes me in any shape or form

KISS HER!

No don't do that, Have you asked her brother why she acts like that?

Maybe something has happened in her past that you aren't aware of and it makes her wary of some males. You can't really know for sure unless you talk to someone who is close to her. Maybe ask her mother? She doesn't have a problem with you does hse?

Good idea. Why don't you just ask her straight up what her feelings are, and why she has changed.

I think she might have a crush on you.

She ignores you because she likes you... straight up!!

I was over her house recently because I'm friends with her brother. She looked at me a few times and appeared to be just as shy around me as in the past. The big difference is that both of our parents were communicating more mainly because of recent medical issues in my family. As her mom and her were leaving, they commented on how I was behaving.

When they got back, things were completely different. It's almost like something happened while they were gone. I'm beginning to think that her mom told her about my family, even though this has been going on for a couple of weeks. At dinner, she was surprisingly more talkative with me and we were able to have brief conversations.

Not long after, I could hear her talking to a friend on the computer. She seemed to be mimicking me and for reason said I thought he was high" and soon after about something ending. The latter could have been them talking about their favorite show which was coming on later. I figured the former might have been about the way I had seemed more relaxed myself.

Her brother and I agreed to agreed to play a few card games with her and their mom. When we went to go get them, she still seemed relaxed and was talkative, almost in joking manner. This increased as we began playing. I thought I would be more open as well like I normally am while playing games. I was initially ,although not nearly as much as her (she was really upbeat and laughing real loud, but not because of me.), but this changed when we switched games. It was a trivia game that I never played before and I felt out of my element. I tried to regain composure, though I didn't know what to say. When I did say something, it rarely got the reaction I expected. We briefly got back to the first game, but this didn't improve anything.

By then, her show was coming on and we all (amazingly) began to watch it. Soon after, the aforementioned show came on and (surprisingly) we all started watching it. Unfortunately, I never really saw the show before, so I still barely said a word. Her parents occasionally glanced over at me like they expected to me do something. At that point though, I was starting to become very tired. It didn't help that a couple of times she made comments to her parents about how good looking two of the guys are. I was also able to admit that I never saw the show and didn't understand most of it (it helped that her dad felt the same way). She seemed to understand, but it felt awkward to me especially when she began to focus more on her dad. I briefly recovered when were commenting on a noise we heard outside and she briefly focused on me. The last I saw of her that night, we were alone and I said "excuse me" to get by her, but she barely reacted.

She still looked at me from time to time, but this was more like a passing glance. She had been open around me in the past, but would barely talk to and/or notice me. I had also heard her talk about other guys before, but not like this.

I'm a bit confused. Why do you care? She's your friends sister. Are you interested in her? Does she know that you're interested?

If not, well, she's single, and she can date or talk about whoever she wants.

None of the things you described show any interest on her part. It sounds like she was being nice, you played games, watched a show, and she left. Just like many friends do.

So, what's your status? I'd say friend, but only as long as her family is around. When her family isn't there, based on what you described, I'd say that you aren't even friends, but acquaintances.

You have three threads on this site, all about the same issue.

Please keep all info about the same issue in one thread.

I've asked that your threads be merged so that we can keep all questions pertaining to this girl together. It really helps us give an answer when we have the whole story, and all posts pertaining to that story are kept together.

Please stick to the one thread for all future postings about this "relationship".

Oops, I forgot to mention the signs of interest that she has shown in the past: looking at me more (mostly when I’m not looking at her and sometimes while giggling), asking people she knows questions about me, showing concern for me if she thinks I’m in trouble (ex. If I have a bad cough), her friends act differently around me, sometimes she blushes around me, react when I would say "I love...", etc. She was also starting to smile at me more. I have plenty more where that I came from.

How old is she? How old are you?

The fact is, she hasn't made a move, and it seems that you haven't either. It could be that she's just nervous around you because you're friends with her brother.

You can't base feelings on a blush, or eye contact, or reactions to what you say. She may well care for you as a friend of her brothers. She could have a crush on you. The only way to know for sure is to ask her.

So stop playing the guessing game and ask her if she likes you as more then a friend.

I tried something like that a while back. She got really nervous and before I could finish talking, she walked away saying that she's going upstairs. I can't really blame her though, the way I went about it made it an awkward moment for both of us.

I tried something like that a while back. She got really nervous and before I could finish talking, she walked away saying that she's going upstairs. I can't really blame her though, the way I went about it made it an awkward moment for both of us.

How old is she?

I'd guess she's a young teen, and that you're maybe just a bit older.

You are correct.

Well, young teens are very fickle. She may have a crush on you one minute, and then move onto someone else the next.

The fact that you asked her how she felt and she made an excuse to leave, should tell you that she's not interested. That may also be why she started acting differently around you. She knows you like her, and she feels awkward around you since she doesn't reciprocate your feelings.

You could ask her again, see if her feelings have changed. That's up to you.

Either way, stop reading so much into every glance, every giggle. Girls are giggly, they stare (not always because they like you).

I'd personally find someone that cares for you like you do for them.

That happened over a year ago though. I wasn't able to get my point across to her. She doesn't show these signs around anyone else. Don't forget, she has and continues to talk about me with friends and some family members. Her parents know about our feelings and occasionally encourage it. Not too long ago, she even told her friends I am special to her. Things were only improving.

Oh and about her talking about other guys, they were all actors on the show we were watching (and from commercials for other shows). I still don't know why she mentioned them though. She did express interest in another male actor when he was brought up and I think even a baseball player when we were watching the game. These were both a while back and didn't stand out as much to me at the time.

Well, since you don't seem to want advice, and you're convinced that she's interested, then you have two choices.

1. Tell her that you're interested, and find out if she feels the same way.

2. Keep playing this game, look for signs in everything she does and everything she says, say nothing about your feelings, and get nowhere.

It's up to you.